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Once I think that it has to do with "service" I end up getting pissed off.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Oh talk about being in a Matrix... Martyrdom as a goal, what's next...tj said:Once I think that it has to do with "service" I end up getting pissed off.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Maxtro said:Does anybody here believe that they have found their life's purpose?
Never underestimate the enjoyment of a hedonistic lifestyle...TyTe`EyEs said:The never ending pursuit of happiness.
So true. Fvck co-dependancy!Francisco d'Anconia said:Oh talk about being in a Matrix... Martyrdom as a goal, what's next...I bet someone else told you that service should be your purpose (kinda self serving of themselves ironically). Ever consider that how things would be if each adult was self sufficient?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
LMMFAO!!!tj said:I do get pleasure from doing good deads... However, my tolerance level for most human beings is getting shorter by the day.
hello:wave: ? I want to help people by becoming a motivational speaker? :wave:The Inside Man said:So is everyone just complete nihilists that think we should only look out for ourselves? It's not that rediculous to have service as a life goal, you can influence and help people just in your everyday life. I still have my fun too. In my opinion if you're only living for yourself you're not really living. People will try to take advantage or leech onto you, just cut them off. Lots of people genuinely could use some help in whatever form, and won't be manipulative. The only time I don't do this alot is when I'm dating a girl, just to stay out of the provider/ helper mindset.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
comic_relief said:hello:wave: ? I want to help people by becoming a motivational speaker? :wave:
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