"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Do you approach even if you don't get the eyecontact?

the_govner

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I read in a bible article NEVER to approach without eye contact first, I never thought about this before, is this dogma?

I honestly can't remember whether I've done it or not without the eye contact but when you think about it, it is a challenge without.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Lust

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the_govner said:
I read in a bible article NEVER to approach without eye contact first, I never thought about this before, is this dogma?

I honestly can't remember whether I've done it or not without the eye contact but when you think about it, it is a challenge without.
Eye contact isn't the only AI.

When you get good at recognising receptive bodylanguage, there are a lot more cues which you can approach to.

:)
 

SuavePlaya

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Eye contact makes the game much easier. The attraction for you is already there when a girl gives you eye contact. Why would you want to make the game much harder on yourself by cold approachs.
 

DonJoseCantosie

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Because u never know. Most of the day2s i've had were of cold approaching. If i only relied on e/c....then i wouldn't had made as much progress as i have now.
 

daygameguy

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the_govner said:
I read in a bible article NEVER to approach without eye contact first, I never thought about this before, is this dogma?

I honestly can't remember whether I've done it or not without the eye contact but when you think about it, it is a challenge without.
lol I usually open over shoulder so this eye-contact thing makes no sense to me. However, it's good to get some Approach Invitation (eye contact), but don't wait for it. There is no perfect moment to approach, just go in and make it happen.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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