"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Do you approach even if you don't get the eyecontact?

the_govner

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I read in a bible article NEVER to approach without eye contact first, I never thought about this before, is this dogma?

I honestly can't remember whether I've done it or not without the eye contact but when you think about it, it is a challenge without.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Lust

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the_govner said:
I read in a bible article NEVER to approach without eye contact first, I never thought about this before, is this dogma?

I honestly can't remember whether I've done it or not without the eye contact but when you think about it, it is a challenge without.
Eye contact isn't the only AI.

When you get good at recognising receptive bodylanguage, there are a lot more cues which you can approach to.

:)
 

SuavePlaya

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Eye contact makes the game much easier. The attraction for you is already there when a girl gives you eye contact. Why would you want to make the game much harder on yourself by cold approachs.
 

DonJoseCantosie

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Because u never know. Most of the day2s i've had were of cold approaching. If i only relied on e/c....then i wouldn't had made as much progress as i have now.
 

daygameguy

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the_govner said:
I read in a bible article NEVER to approach without eye contact first, I never thought about this before, is this dogma?

I honestly can't remember whether I've done it or not without the eye contact but when you think about it, it is a challenge without.
lol I usually open over shoulder so this eye-contact thing makes no sense to me. However, it's good to get some Approach Invitation (eye contact), but don't wait for it. There is no perfect moment to approach, just go in and make it happen.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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