"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Do you approach even if you don't get the eyecontact?

the_govner

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I read in a bible article NEVER to approach without eye contact first, I never thought about this before, is this dogma?

I honestly can't remember whether I've done it or not without the eye contact but when you think about it, it is a challenge without.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Lust

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the_govner said:
I read in a bible article NEVER to approach without eye contact first, I never thought about this before, is this dogma?

I honestly can't remember whether I've done it or not without the eye contact but when you think about it, it is a challenge without.
Eye contact isn't the only AI.

When you get good at recognising receptive bodylanguage, there are a lot more cues which you can approach to.

:)
 

SuavePlaya

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Eye contact makes the game much easier. The attraction for you is already there when a girl gives you eye contact. Why would you want to make the game much harder on yourself by cold approachs.
 

DonJoseCantosie

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Because u never know. Most of the day2s i've had were of cold approaching. If i only relied on e/c....then i wouldn't had made as much progress as i have now.
 

daygameguy

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the_govner said:
I read in a bible article NEVER to approach without eye contact first, I never thought about this before, is this dogma?

I honestly can't remember whether I've done it or not without the eye contact but when you think about it, it is a challenge without.
lol I usually open over shoulder so this eye-contact thing makes no sense to me. However, it's good to get some Approach Invitation (eye contact), but don't wait for it. There is no perfect moment to approach, just go in and make it happen.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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