The People Who Quit Dating
Being single can be hard—but the search for love may be harder.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Do you agree with this dating article from the atlantic ?:)
- Thread starter eli77
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
MatureDJ
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I think the "choose your spouse" meme that was at the heart of the great play/movie "Fiddler on the Roof", was a guiding principle of the Sexual Revolution and the Me Generation, and has found its apotheosis with OLD, is destined for a major reset. The Paradox of Choice is a paradox because rather than liberate, it befuddles.
Hamurabimbi
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I enjoyed dating. Even when it didn’t work out.
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Would you go on dates for fun with an Attractive fun woman even if you know ya got no shot at getting laid?
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Many men are quitting dating because they are not seeing results from it.
There's no reason to go on multiple first dates that don't result in either first date sex or eventual sex from a longer term relationships.
Additionally, it is even worse for men that don't get dates from electronic methods or get their in-person approaches ignored.
There's no reason to go on multiple first dates that don't result in either first date sex or eventual sex from a longer term relationships.
Additionally, it is even worse for men that don't get dates from electronic methods or get their in-person approaches ignored.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Hamurabimbi
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If it was something I wanted to do (like try a cool, new restaurant). and she paid her fair share? Yes.
So true
Hamurabimbi
Master Don Juan
A girl I wound up with, whom I met on Tinder, told me she matched with a guy she didn’t find attractive, but thought his bio was cool. They met & she told him, straight up, ‘no kissing. No sfx.’. He still took her out to a ball game & dinner.
Dating is fine as long as you realise it’s a value exchange.
It’s fun in the beginning but at some point women always want more than you are willing to give (money, energy, attention, time, validation etc.) and/or the quality/quantity of bedroom action or whatever else you want from the relationship declines or has increasingly more and more conditions placed on it (choreplay, giftplay, romance play, moving in or marriage demands etc.).
What was relatively low investment for you in the beginning increases over time and the satisfaction you experience declines. Probably the same experience for her as well, just different things.
It’s then a slow death spiral to the inevitable break up, dead bedroom, affair/cheating, increasing feelings of unhappiness/dissatisfaction/boredom; just the length of time this takes to happen can vary. There are exceptions of course but everyone thinks they will be the exception.
It’s fun in the beginning but at some point women always want more than you are willing to give (money, energy, attention, time, validation etc.) and/or the quality/quantity of bedroom action or whatever else you want from the relationship declines or has increasingly more and more conditions placed on it (choreplay, giftplay, romance play, moving in or marriage demands etc.).
What was relatively low investment for you in the beginning increases over time and the satisfaction you experience declines. Probably the same experience for her as well, just different things.
It’s then a slow death spiral to the inevitable break up, dead bedroom, affair/cheating, increasing feelings of unhappiness/dissatisfaction/boredom; just the length of time this takes to happen can vary. There are exceptions of course but everyone thinks they will be the exception.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
MatureDJ
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It's OVER for NoSfxCels.
Really, this is one of the reasons I don't have a problem with EscortMaxxing. If I drop the same amount for a session as I would taking a chick of her calibre out and not get action, why is that not the sensible thing to do?
what site do you use?
Redwood
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It's more akin job searching tbh.
MatureDJ
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It's not in the USA.
