The People Who Quit Dating
Being single can be hard—but the search for love may be harder.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Do you agree with this dating article from the atlantic ?:)
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
MatureDJ
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I think the "choose your spouse" meme that was at the heart of the great play/movie "Fiddler on the Roof", was a guiding principle of the Sexual Revolution and the Me Generation, and has found its apotheosis with OLD, is destined for a major reset. The Paradox of Choice is a paradox because rather than liberate, it befuddles.
Hamurabimbi
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I enjoyed dating. Even when it didn’t work out.
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Would you go on dates for fun with an Attractive fun woman even if you know ya got no shot at getting laid?
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Many men are quitting dating because they are not seeing results from it.
There's no reason to go on multiple first dates that don't result in either first date sex or eventual sex from a longer term relationships.
Additionally, it is even worse for men that don't get dates from electronic methods or get their in-person approaches ignored.
There's no reason to go on multiple first dates that don't result in either first date sex or eventual sex from a longer term relationships.
Additionally, it is even worse for men that don't get dates from electronic methods or get their in-person approaches ignored.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Hamurabimbi
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If it was something I wanted to do (like try a cool, new restaurant). and she paid her fair share? Yes.
So true
Hamurabimbi
Master Don Juan
A girl I wound up with, whom I met on Tinder, told me she matched with a guy she didn’t find attractive, but thought his bio was cool. They met & she told him, straight up, ‘no kissing. No sfx.’. He still took her out to a ball game & dinner.
Dating is fine as long as you realise it’s a value exchange.
It’s fun in the beginning but at some point women always want more than you are willing to give (money, energy, attention, time, validation etc.) and/or the quality/quantity of bedroom action or whatever else you want from the relationship declines or has increasingly more and more conditions placed on it (choreplay, giftplay, romance play, moving in or marriage demands etc.).
What was relatively low investment for you in the beginning increases over time and the satisfaction you experience declines. Probably the same experience for her as well, just different things.
It’s then a slow death spiral to the inevitable break up, dead bedroom, affair/cheating, increasing feelings of unhappiness/dissatisfaction/boredom; just the length of time this takes to happen can vary. There are exceptions of course but everyone thinks they will be the exception.
It’s fun in the beginning but at some point women always want more than you are willing to give (money, energy, attention, time, validation etc.) and/or the quality/quantity of bedroom action or whatever else you want from the relationship declines or has increasingly more and more conditions placed on it (choreplay, giftplay, romance play, moving in or marriage demands etc.).
What was relatively low investment for you in the beginning increases over time and the satisfaction you experience declines. Probably the same experience for her as well, just different things.
It’s then a slow death spiral to the inevitable break up, dead bedroom, affair/cheating, increasing feelings of unhappiness/dissatisfaction/boredom; just the length of time this takes to happen can vary. There are exceptions of course but everyone thinks they will be the exception.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
MatureDJ
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It's OVER for NoSfxCels.
Really, this is one of the reasons I don't have a problem with EscortMaxxing. If I drop the same amount for a session as I would taking a chick of her calibre out and not get action, why is that not the sensible thing to do?
what site do you use?
Redwood
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It's more akin job searching tbh.
MatureDJ
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It's not in the USA.
