I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
)LOL.Originally posted by Luscious
Easy way to answer this is to reverse roles.
Say you were at school one day, and some girl you know was all about you - I mean she's looking at you with THOSE eyes, touching you, talking to you - basically you're both having a great time, and she's looking really interested.
So you go home that night and think about it, and what it meant, etc. etc...and then there's no way in hell you come back to school the next day and act exactly the same, because things aren't the same, they're progressing, you know?
That's how it probably feels to them. It's not a bad thing, in fact it shows they're thinking about you. Not bad.
But also, just like everyone in the world, women have moods, some days people are happy, some days they aren't.
Also, gotta watch out for when they're on their periods. Sometimes that's pretty nasty mood swings - handle with extreme caution (let's just say I'm speaking from experience
Wow! That made so much sense. Nice reply!Originally posted by Luscious
Easy way to answer this is to reverse roles.
Say you were at school one day, and some girl you know was all about you - I mean she's looking at you with THOSE eyes, touching you, talking to you - basically you're both having a great time, and she's looking really interested.
So you go home that night and think about it, and what it meant, etc. etc...and then there's no way in hell you come back to school the next day and act exactly the same, because things aren't the same, they're progressing, you know?
That's how it probably feels to them. It's not a bad thing, in fact it shows they're thinking about you. Not bad.
But also, just like everyone in the world, women have moods, some days people are happy, some days they aren't.
Also, gotta watch out for when they're on their periods. Sometimes that's pretty nasty mood swings - handle with extreme caution (let's just say I'm speaking from experience