The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
)LOL.Originally posted by Luscious
Easy way to answer this is to reverse roles.
Say you were at school one day, and some girl you know was all about you - I mean she's looking at you with THOSE eyes, touching you, talking to you - basically you're both having a great time, and she's looking really interested.
So you go home that night and think about it, and what it meant, etc. etc...and then there's no way in hell you come back to school the next day and act exactly the same, because things aren't the same, they're progressing, you know?
That's how it probably feels to them. It's not a bad thing, in fact it shows they're thinking about you. Not bad.
But also, just like everyone in the world, women have moods, some days people are happy, some days they aren't.
Also, gotta watch out for when they're on their periods. Sometimes that's pretty nasty mood swings - handle with extreme caution (let's just say I'm speaking from experience
Wow! That made so much sense. Nice reply!Originally posted by Luscious
Easy way to answer this is to reverse roles.
Say you were at school one day, and some girl you know was all about you - I mean she's looking at you with THOSE eyes, touching you, talking to you - basically you're both having a great time, and she's looking really interested.
So you go home that night and think about it, and what it meant, etc. etc...and then there's no way in hell you come back to school the next day and act exactly the same, because things aren't the same, they're progressing, you know?
That's how it probably feels to them. It's not a bad thing, in fact it shows they're thinking about you. Not bad.
But also, just like everyone in the world, women have moods, some days people are happy, some days they aren't.
Also, gotta watch out for when they're on their periods. Sometimes that's pretty nasty mood swings - handle with extreme caution (let's just say I'm speaking from experience