She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
)LOL.Originally posted by Luscious
Easy way to answer this is to reverse roles.
Say you were at school one day, and some girl you know was all about you - I mean she's looking at you with THOSE eyes, touching you, talking to you - basically you're both having a great time, and she's looking really interested.
So you go home that night and think about it, and what it meant, etc. etc...and then there's no way in hell you come back to school the next day and act exactly the same, because things aren't the same, they're progressing, you know?
That's how it probably feels to them. It's not a bad thing, in fact it shows they're thinking about you. Not bad.
But also, just like everyone in the world, women have moods, some days people are happy, some days they aren't.
Also, gotta watch out for when they're on their periods. Sometimes that's pretty nasty mood swings - handle with extreme caution (let's just say I'm speaking from experience
Wow! That made so much sense. Nice reply!Originally posted by Luscious
Easy way to answer this is to reverse roles.
Say you were at school one day, and some girl you know was all about you - I mean she's looking at you with THOSE eyes, touching you, talking to you - basically you're both having a great time, and she's looking really interested.
So you go home that night and think about it, and what it meant, etc. etc...and then there's no way in hell you come back to school the next day and act exactly the same, because things aren't the same, they're progressing, you know?
That's how it probably feels to them. It's not a bad thing, in fact it shows they're thinking about you. Not bad.
But also, just like everyone in the world, women have moods, some days people are happy, some days they aren't.
Also, gotta watch out for when they're on their periods. Sometimes that's pretty nasty mood swings - handle with extreme caution (let's just say I'm speaking from experience