Advice from the old lady:
Yes. Men have friendzones. Yes men & women can be friends. Yes it is unusual to a degree...but if you are cool then it’s cool.
I have a close circle of female friends and a close circle of male friends. My male friends are all handsome, experienced with women and a blast to be around. Great friendships are rooted in respect and boundaries just like great relationships are, there just isn’t sex in the equation.
I wing for my male friends all the time...and they wing for me too. One is dating now for 2+ years a girlfriend of mine & I introduced them. I’ll wing for my ex husband (and I’ve been out before with my boyfriend and my ex husband & introducing my ex husband to women...it’s been fine & actually makes for entertaining conversation for all involved.)
You can’t be insecure or wanting something more. From either side (male or female). I have dated a couple of my guy friends in years past...and things were cool when it didn’t work out. I’m not a fvck buddy kind of woman (boundaries) and my previous dates (who were never promoted to boyfriend) move on to date others just as I do. One of my closest guy friends is best mates with a guy I went on a few dates with. I learned the guy I was starting to date wanted the chance to be a father one day...I cannot accommodate that (I’m fixed, too old for babies, not interested) so I quit dating him to let him find a younger woman who he might father children with. Great, great guy. He had a girlfriend that I met & liked until that fell apart, recently he’s dating somebody his best mate really likes...Ive not yet met her, but in time I’m sure I will....
In a little bit I’m headed to meet one of my male buddies for coffee. I had a fantastic date last night & he was out with a date as well...so we are going to get caught up on the weekend goings on we’ve each had...
A friend is someone you enjoy spending time with at the end of the day. True friendships don’t involve sex. Just companionship and enjoyment. My male friends do not lack for sex at all.
I do not retain orbiters. Orbiters drive me nuts. Part of the reason I hang with playboys is precisely because they are NOT orbiters...and most of these guys keep a fan club of fvck buddies (which I will not be)...so it’s great. Nobody is orbiting, we wing for each other, everybody is attractive, it’s quite a blast actually.
Cheers Gents