i was supposed to go to the movies with some girl i work with last week but i was unable to go and i told her a few days before that we should reschedule for next week *this week*. so she says wednesday *today* and that she would let me know the time by text or facebook.. i still havent gotten a text. do i text her if its still on for tonight?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
do i text her?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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And, why the movies? You can't mack on them there. What about a lounge or bar?
no mavrick i didnt make last minute plans. she messaged me last week that school ends for her friday and that we should hang out saturday, i told her i was unable to on saturday and i said how about wednesday and she said that looks good ill message you the time that i can *cuz she works*
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
should i ask her wtf happened when i see her at work on friday or just leave it alone? were always kinoing at work so idk wtf is going on here
hmm update here. she just made her facebook status say::: is trying to make everyone happy but there's only so much I can do.....
im guessing shes really busy right now *shes graduating tomorrow*
hmm update here. she just made her facebook status say::: is trying to make everyone happy but there's only so much I can do.....
im guessing shes really busy right now *shes graduating tomorrow*
Yea, just lay off. She's busy right now, and she definitely has a right to say no. Give her some space because all you're going to do is become unattractive by becoming pushy. Lay back and see if she comes to you. If she doesn't, try one last time a little later, but you've got to have better timing. Just don't push it because you'll just show her your desperation.
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I have an incredible idea...get ready...
Call instead of text.
Call instead of text.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
i think its done, move on... but thats what i would do
but i'd text.. if no response.. then bail and withdraw your attention from this chick
also never add a girl your interested in to facebook or msn, keep it strictly on the phone or text...
but i'd text.. if no response.. then bail and withdraw your attention from this chick
also never add a girl your interested in to facebook or msn, keep it strictly on the phone or text...