i was supposed to go to the movies with some girl i work with last week but i was unable to go and i told her a few days before that we should reschedule for next week *this week*. so she says wednesday *today* and that she would let me know the time by text or facebook.. i still havent gotten a text. do i text her if its still on for tonight?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
do i text her?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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And, why the movies? You can't mack on them there. What about a lounge or bar?
no mavrick i didnt make last minute plans. she messaged me last week that school ends for her friday and that we should hang out saturday, i told her i was unable to on saturday and i said how about wednesday and she said that looks good ill message you the time that i can *cuz she works*
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
should i ask her wtf happened when i see her at work on friday or just leave it alone? were always kinoing at work so idk wtf is going on here
hmm update here. she just made her facebook status say::: is trying to make everyone happy but there's only so much I can do.....
im guessing shes really busy right now *shes graduating tomorrow*
hmm update here. she just made her facebook status say::: is trying to make everyone happy but there's only so much I can do.....
im guessing shes really busy right now *shes graduating tomorrow*
Yea, just lay off. She's busy right now, and she definitely has a right to say no. Give her some space because all you're going to do is become unattractive by becoming pushy. Lay back and see if she comes to you. If she doesn't, try one last time a little later, but you've got to have better timing. Just don't push it because you'll just show her your desperation.
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I have an incredible idea...get ready...
Call instead of text.
Call instead of text.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
i think its done, move on... but thats what i would do
but i'd text.. if no response.. then bail and withdraw your attention from this chick
also never add a girl your interested in to facebook or msn, keep it strictly on the phone or text...
but i'd text.. if no response.. then bail and withdraw your attention from this chick
also never add a girl your interested in to facebook or msn, keep it strictly on the phone or text...