i was supposed to go to the movies with some girl i work with last week but i was unable to go and i told her a few days before that we should reschedule for next week *this week*. so she says wednesday *today* and that she would let me know the time by text or facebook.. i still havent gotten a text. do i text her if its still on for tonight?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
do i text her?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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And, why the movies? You can't mack on them there. What about a lounge or bar?
no mavrick i didnt make last minute plans. she messaged me last week that school ends for her friday and that we should hang out saturday, i told her i was unable to on saturday and i said how about wednesday and she said that looks good ill message you the time that i can *cuz she works*
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
should i ask her wtf happened when i see her at work on friday or just leave it alone? were always kinoing at work so idk wtf is going on here
hmm update here. she just made her facebook status say::: is trying to make everyone happy but there's only so much I can do.....
im guessing shes really busy right now *shes graduating tomorrow*
hmm update here. she just made her facebook status say::: is trying to make everyone happy but there's only so much I can do.....
im guessing shes really busy right now *shes graduating tomorrow*
Yea, just lay off. She's busy right now, and she definitely has a right to say no. Give her some space because all you're going to do is become unattractive by becoming pushy. Lay back and see if she comes to you. If she doesn't, try one last time a little later, but you've got to have better timing. Just don't push it because you'll just show her your desperation.
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I have an incredible idea...get ready...
Call instead of text.
Call instead of text.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
i think its done, move on... but thats what i would do
but i'd text.. if no response.. then bail and withdraw your attention from this chick
also never add a girl your interested in to facebook or msn, keep it strictly on the phone or text...
but i'd text.. if no response.. then bail and withdraw your attention from this chick
also never add a girl your interested in to facebook or msn, keep it strictly on the phone or text...