i was supposed to go to the movies with some girl i work with last week but i was unable to go and i told her a few days before that we should reschedule for next week *this week*. so she says wednesday *today* and that she would let me know the time by text or facebook.. i still havent gotten a text. do i text her if its still on for tonight?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
do i text her?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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And, why the movies? You can't mack on them there. What about a lounge or bar?
no mavrick i didnt make last minute plans. she messaged me last week that school ends for her friday and that we should hang out saturday, i told her i was unable to on saturday and i said how about wednesday and she said that looks good ill message you the time that i can *cuz she works*
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
should i ask her wtf happened when i see her at work on friday or just leave it alone? were always kinoing at work so idk wtf is going on here
hmm update here. she just made her facebook status say::: is trying to make everyone happy but there's only so much I can do.....
im guessing shes really busy right now *shes graduating tomorrow*
hmm update here. she just made her facebook status say::: is trying to make everyone happy but there's only so much I can do.....
im guessing shes really busy right now *shes graduating tomorrow*
Yea, just lay off. She's busy right now, and she definitely has a right to say no. Give her some space because all you're going to do is become unattractive by becoming pushy. Lay back and see if she comes to you. If she doesn't, try one last time a little later, but you've got to have better timing. Just don't push it because you'll just show her your desperation.
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I have an incredible idea...get ready...
Call instead of text.
Call instead of text.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
i think its done, move on... but thats what i would do
but i'd text.. if no response.. then bail and withdraw your attention from this chick
also never add a girl your interested in to facebook or msn, keep it strictly on the phone or text...
but i'd text.. if no response.. then bail and withdraw your attention from this chick
also never add a girl your interested in to facebook or msn, keep it strictly on the phone or text...