"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Do I call her out on this?

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Hi,

Long story short saw my ex Sunday after 6 months of not seeing her, but talking to her sometimes. It went well, decent conversation and some kissing at the end. Still threw some red flags up that she's still like her old self, in a bad way....She still drinks too much.

Anyway I have been just seeing how it goes not expecting too much.

So, yesterday I see she posts on facebook that she woke up crying because someone is playing her for a fool. Logic tells me shes after some guy that she is also pursuing. She did this while we were dating before and didn;t tell me until afterwards.

So here are my possible ideas.

Call her out, tell her I'm not cool with her going after other dudes and trying to see me as well. She promised "no secrets".

Don't talk to her anymore, vanish into the darkness.

She trys to say all the right things, but I don't trust her that much.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You're not going to get a single reply here from anyone that will recommend communicating with her. And they're right. Why in the world would you want to have any more drama with this woman? You said yourself that she is bad news and probably will never change.

Closure with someone like this has to come from inside yourself. Don't expect her to say some magic words and make everything better. It's just not gonna happen.
 
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You do nothing. She is an ex. She owes you nothing.

You should do the following.
a). Get busy doing other things including, but not limited to hanging with other chicks
b). Stop checking her page
 
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Yeah I know she doesn't owe me anything and shes free to do whatever, we not together.

If I was my best guy friend I would tell me self stay far away.

I'm sure shes gonna text me sometime today I'm just gonna have to ignore it I think.
 
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Ultracorp said:
Yeah I know she doesn't owe me anything and shes free to do whatever, we not together.

If I was my best guy friend I would tell me self stay far away.

I'm sure shes gonna text me sometime today I'm just gonna have to ignore it I think.
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That's an awesome attitude, man. You're too good of a person to put up with this drama... And you're too good of a person to be some gal's "Plan B."

Good luck and stick to your guns.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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