Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Do I call her out on this?

Ultracorp

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Hi,

Long story short saw my ex Sunday after 6 months of not seeing her, but talking to her sometimes. It went well, decent conversation and some kissing at the end. Still threw some red flags up that she's still like her old self, in a bad way....She still drinks too much.

Anyway I have been just seeing how it goes not expecting too much.

So, yesterday I see she posts on facebook that she woke up crying because someone is playing her for a fool. Logic tells me shes after some guy that she is also pursuing. She did this while we were dating before and didn;t tell me until afterwards.

So here are my possible ideas.

Call her out, tell her I'm not cool with her going after other dudes and trying to see me as well. She promised "no secrets".

Don't talk to her anymore, vanish into the darkness.

She trys to say all the right things, but I don't trust her that much.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The Gambler

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You're not going to get a single reply here from anyone that will recommend communicating with her. And they're right. Why in the world would you want to have any more drama with this woman? You said yourself that she is bad news and probably will never change.

Closure with someone like this has to come from inside yourself. Don't expect her to say some magic words and make everything better. It's just not gonna happen.
 

cola

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You do nothing. She is an ex. She owes you nothing.

You should do the following.
a). Get busy doing other things including, but not limited to hanging with other chicks
b). Stop checking her page
 

Ultracorp

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Yeah I know she doesn't owe me anything and shes free to do whatever, we not together.

If I was my best guy friend I would tell me self stay far away.

I'm sure shes gonna text me sometime today I'm just gonna have to ignore it I think.
 

The Gambler

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Ultracorp said:
Yeah I know she doesn't owe me anything and shes free to do whatever, we not together.

If I was my best guy friend I would tell me self stay far away.

I'm sure shes gonna text me sometime today I'm just gonna have to ignore it I think.
That's an awesome attitude, man. You're too good of a person to put up with this drama... And you're too good of a person to be some gal's "Plan B."

Good luck and stick to your guns.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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