"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Do I call her out on this?

Ultracorp

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 17, 2012
Messages
16
Reaction score
0
Hi,

Long story short saw my ex Sunday after 6 months of not seeing her, but talking to her sometimes. It went well, decent conversation and some kissing at the end. Still threw some red flags up that she's still like her old self, in a bad way....She still drinks too much.

Anyway I have been just seeing how it goes not expecting too much.

So, yesterday I see she posts on facebook that she woke up crying because someone is playing her for a fool. Logic tells me shes after some guy that she is also pursuing. She did this while we were dating before and didn;t tell me until afterwards.

So here are my possible ideas.

Call her out, tell her I'm not cool with her going after other dudes and trying to see me as well. She promised "no secrets".

Don't talk to her anymore, vanish into the darkness.

She trys to say all the right things, but I don't trust her that much.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

The Gambler

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 8, 2012
Messages
371
Reaction score
12
You're not going to get a single reply here from anyone that will recommend communicating with her. And they're right. Why in the world would you want to have any more drama with this woman? You said yourself that she is bad news and probably will never change.

Closure with someone like this has to come from inside yourself. Don't expect her to say some magic words and make everything better. It's just not gonna happen.
 

cola

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 26, 2009
Messages
2,224
Reaction score
3,002
Location
Baltimore
You do nothing. She is an ex. She owes you nothing.

You should do the following.
a). Get busy doing other things including, but not limited to hanging with other chicks
b). Stop checking her page
 

Ultracorp

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 17, 2012
Messages
16
Reaction score
0
Yeah I know she doesn't owe me anything and shes free to do whatever, we not together.

If I was my best guy friend I would tell me self stay far away.

I'm sure shes gonna text me sometime today I'm just gonna have to ignore it I think.
 

The Gambler

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 8, 2012
Messages
371
Reaction score
12
Ultracorp said:
Yeah I know she doesn't owe me anything and shes free to do whatever, we not together.

If I was my best guy friend I would tell me self stay far away.

I'm sure shes gonna text me sometime today I'm just gonna have to ignore it I think.
That's an awesome attitude, man. You're too good of a person to put up with this drama... And you're too good of a person to be some gal's "Plan B."

Good luck and stick to your guns.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Top