Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Sounds like a bunch of shallow women, to me.Francisco d'Anconia said:I've noticed over the years that women are more on "the catch" after New Years. They tend to break up with ex's as a resolution and are anxious to have a new guy by Valentine's Day. However as usual, beware of being the "rebound guy." :nono:
exactly.Cancerian said:Sounds like a bunch of shallow women, to me.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yeah, and???...Cancerian said:Sounds like a bunch of shallow women, to me.
Please publish your studies statistics. How many women exactly were involved in your New Years to Valentines day survey. I want to see the GRAPHS and research followed by a nice powerpoint. :kick:Francisco d'Anconia said:Yeah, and???...![]()
You mean I have to make a spreadsheet? I thought someone else was the forum's resident Excel jockey.Charm said:Please publish your studies statistics. How many women exactly were involved in your New Years to Valentines day survey. I want to see the GRAPHS and research followed by a nice powerpoint. :kick:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Not a good thing to give gifts to a person you just met. If you must do something, text them with a plain old "Happy V-Day," nothing more. It's like meeting someone and finding out it's their birthday. Are you going to give them a present or will you just wish them a happy birthday?Raikojo17 said:so, they get excited. but would they think of u as AFC if u try and it them wit all that valentines love stuff and u just met them?
Shallow women are to be cast aside.Francisco d'Anconia said:Yeah, and???...![]()
What??? Are you saying that guys should qualify women instead of going after any woman just because she gives him a little attention (perhaps because she thinks he has money)?Cancerian said:Shallow women are to be cast aside.
It is up to each man to do as he wishes. But I myself have very little time or patience for the games of a shallow woman. That is not to say that I wouldn't have fun with them (temporarily), but they would be good only as a FB or social proof (if they are attractive). Once their shallowness becomes too apparent, they should be cast aside for the benefit of oneself. I think only an AFC would let it get to the point where she left him for someone else. A DJ would see the writing on the wall and pre-emptively dump her.Francisco d'Anconia said:What??? Are you saying that guys should qualify women instead of going after any woman just because she gives him a little attention (perhaps because she thinks he has money)?![]()
Seems simple, doesn't it?Cancerian said:It is up to each man to do as he wishes. But I myself have very little time or patience for the games of a shallow woman. That is not to say that I wouldn't have fun with them (temporarily), but they would be good only as a FB or social proof (if they are attractive). Once their shallowness becomes too apparent, they should be cast aside for the benefit of oneself. I think only an AFC would let it get to the point where she left him for someone else. A DJ would see the writing on the wall and pre-emptively dump her.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I like to believe so!Francisco d'Anconia said:Seems simple, doesn't it?