"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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do girls get excited about getting men around valentines day?

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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They do.. They have far less independence than we do. They take it personal when the public says this is the day for lovers, and they don't have one. They don't want to look bad by not having a date on V day.

Last year, I started to see someone in December. Soon into this.. an issue comes up, they always do. I emailed her, and said I've noticed xyz. She emailed back with.. OK, let's just stop things here. I emailed back and said, she's not even discussing this with me, how's this OK? Fine.. whatever, I let it go. I don't want a gal that is indifferent to my side.

V-day comes around, I get a phone call from .. guess who. I did not answer it that day. I'd just be speaking to loneliness, not someone that wants time with me. There was a little more time with this gal after, but not much; I was turned off. Will skip details, but you get the point.
 
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I've noticed over the years that women are more on "the catch" after New Years. They tend to break up with ex's as a resolution and are anxious to have a new guy by Valentine's Day. However as usual, beware of being the "rebound guy." :nono:
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
I've noticed over the years that women are more on "the catch" after New Years. They tend to break up with ex's as a resolution and are anxious to have a new guy by Valentine's Day. However as usual, beware of being the "rebound guy." :nono:
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Sounds like a bunch of shallow women, to me.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I don't think they get excited, but they care more about valentines day then some want you to believe. I think for them, not having a date or a guy on valentines day is really shamefull:).. They care more about those commercial bullshyt then you know. Just go to a bar near on valentines day if you aren't doing nothing.. You'll see some sad group of ladies :)
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Yeah, and???... :p
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Please publish your studies statistics. How many women exactly were involved in your New Years to Valentines day survey. I want to see the GRAPHS and research followed by a nice powerpoint. :kick:
 
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Charm said:
Please publish your studies statistics. How many women exactly were involved in your New Years to Valentines day survey. I want to see the GRAPHS and research followed by a nice powerpoint. :kick:
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You mean I have to make a spreadsheet? I thought someone else was the forum's resident Excel jockey.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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so, they get excited. but would they think of u as AFC if u try and it them wit all that valentines love stuff and u just met them?
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Not a good thing to give gifts to a person you just met. If you must do something, text them with a plain old "Happy V-Day," nothing more. It's like meeting someone and finding out it's their birthday. Are you going to give them a present or will you just wish them a happy birthday?
 
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Shallow women are to be cast aside.
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What??? Are you saying that guys should qualify women instead of going after any woman just because she gives him a little attention (perhaps because she thinks he has money)? :eek:
 
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What??? Are you saying that guys should qualify women instead of going after any woman just because she gives him a little attention (perhaps because she thinks he has money)? :eek:
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It is up to each man to do as he wishes. But I myself have very little time or patience for the games of a shallow woman. That is not to say that I wouldn't have fun with them (temporarily), but they would be good only as a FB or social proof (if they are attractive). Once their shallowness becomes too apparent, they should be cast aside for the benefit of oneself. I think only an AFC would let it get to the point where she left him for someone else. A DJ would see the writing on the wall and pre-emptively dump her.
 
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It is up to each man to do as he wishes. But I myself have very little time or patience for the games of a shallow woman. That is not to say that I wouldn't have fun with them (temporarily), but they would be good only as a FB or social proof (if they are attractive). Once their shallowness becomes too apparent, they should be cast aside for the benefit of oneself. I think only an AFC would let it get to the point where she left him for someone else. A DJ would see the writing on the wall and pre-emptively dump her.
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Seems simple, doesn't it?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yeah, I think the times of year of heightened interest are Christmas, Valentine's Day and the Spring for some reason - that's when women are more sensitive to being lonely or not with someone.

Heck, I'm thinking of putting a profile pic on with me holding a rose with a whitty smile, and putting some snappy profile on by next month - as the right guy who has been waiting in the background - who cares about a rebound guy - it's the connection that counts.
 
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I think the holidays are even more desperation-inducing for women than Valentine's Day. At least on Valentine's Day they can stay home and watch a movie... but for XMas work parties and family things your single-ness is right out there in the open.
 
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