"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

do girls get excited about getting men around valentines day?

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

T

Thomas94305

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 19, 2005
Messages
324
Reaction score
2
Location
California
They do.. They have far less independence than we do. They take it personal when the public says this is the day for lovers, and they don't have one. They don't want to look bad by not having a date on V day.

Last year, I started to see someone in December. Soon into this.. an issue comes up, they always do. I emailed her, and said I've noticed xyz. She emailed back with.. OK, let's just stop things here. I emailed back and said, she's not even discussing this with me, how's this OK? Fine.. whatever, I let it go. I don't want a gal that is indifferent to my side.

V-day comes around, I get a phone call from .. guess who. I did not answer it that day. I'd just be speaking to loneliness, not someone that wants time with me. There was a little more time with this gal after, but not much; I was turned off. Will skip details, but you get the point.
 
F

Francisco d'Anconia

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 10, 2003
Messages
15,481
Reaction score
65
Location
Galt's Gulch
I've noticed over the years that women are more on "the catch" after New Years. They tend to break up with ex's as a resolution and are anxious to have a new guy by Valentine's Day. However as usual, beware of being the "rebound guy." :nono:
 
C

Cancerian

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 17, 2006
Messages
111
Reaction score
0
Francisco d'Anconia said:
I've noticed over the years that women are more on "the catch" after New Years. They tend to break up with ex's as a resolution and are anxious to have a new guy by Valentine's Day. However as usual, beware of being the "rebound guy." :nono:
Click to expand...
Sounds like a bunch of shallow women, to me.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

F

Faca

Banned
Joined
Jun 12, 2006
Messages
151
Reaction score
1
I don't think they get excited, but they care more about valentines day then some want you to believe. I think for them, not having a date or a guy on valentines day is really shamefull:).. They care more about those commercial bullshyt then you know. Just go to a bar near on valentines day if you aren't doing nothing.. You'll see some sad group of ladies :)
 
C

Charm

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 18, 2003
Messages
1,268
Reaction score
11
Age
43
Francisco d'Anconia said:
Yeah, and???... :p
Click to expand...
Please publish your studies statistics. How many women exactly were involved in your New Years to Valentines day survey. I want to see the GRAPHS and research followed by a nice powerpoint. :kick:
 
F

Francisco d'Anconia

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 10, 2003
Messages
15,481
Reaction score
65
Location
Galt's Gulch
Charm said:
Please publish your studies statistics. How many women exactly were involved in your New Years to Valentines day survey. I want to see the GRAPHS and research followed by a nice powerpoint. :kick:
Click to expand...
You mean I have to make a spreadsheet? I thought someone else was the forum's resident Excel jockey.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

Read more...

F

Francisco d'Anconia

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 10, 2003
Messages
15,481
Reaction score
65
Location
Galt's Gulch
Raikojo17 said:
so, they get excited. but would they think of u as AFC if u try and it them wit all that valentines love stuff and u just met them?
Click to expand...
Not a good thing to give gifts to a person you just met. If you must do something, text them with a plain old "Happy V-Day," nothing more. It's like meeting someone and finding out it's their birthday. Are you going to give them a present or will you just wish them a happy birthday?
 
F

Francisco d'Anconia

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 10, 2003
Messages
15,481
Reaction score
65
Location
Galt's Gulch
Cancerian said:
Shallow women are to be cast aside.
Click to expand...
What??? Are you saying that guys should qualify women instead of going after any woman just because she gives him a little attention (perhaps because she thinks he has money)? :eek:
 
C

Cancerian

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 17, 2006
Messages
111
Reaction score
0
Francisco d'Anconia said:
What??? Are you saying that guys should qualify women instead of going after any woman just because she gives him a little attention (perhaps because she thinks he has money)? :eek:
Click to expand...
It is up to each man to do as he wishes. But I myself have very little time or patience for the games of a shallow woman. That is not to say that I wouldn't have fun with them (temporarily), but they would be good only as a FB or social proof (if they are attractive). Once their shallowness becomes too apparent, they should be cast aside for the benefit of oneself. I think only an AFC would let it get to the point where she left him for someone else. A DJ would see the writing on the wall and pre-emptively dump her.
 
F

Francisco d'Anconia

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 10, 2003
Messages
15,481
Reaction score
65
Location
Galt's Gulch
Cancerian said:
It is up to each man to do as he wishes. But I myself have very little time or patience for the games of a shallow woman. That is not to say that I wouldn't have fun with them (temporarily), but they would be good only as a FB or social proof (if they are attractive). Once their shallowness becomes too apparent, they should be cast aside for the benefit of oneself. I think only an AFC would let it get to the point where she left him for someone else. A DJ would see the writing on the wall and pre-emptively dump her.
Click to expand...
Seems simple, doesn't it?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

Read more...

L

Luke Skywalker

Banned
Joined
May 23, 2006
Messages
2,434
Reaction score
11
Yeah, I think the times of year of heightened interest are Christmas, Valentine's Day and the Spring for some reason - that's when women are more sensitive to being lonely or not with someone.

Heck, I'm thinking of putting a profile pic on with me holding a rose with a whitty smile, and putting some snappy profile on by next month - as the right guy who has been waiting in the background - who cares about a rebound guy - it's the connection that counts.
 
R

realsmoothie

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 30, 2006
Messages
1,064
Reaction score
9
I think the holidays are even more desperation-inducing for women than Valentine's Day. At least on Valentine's Day they can stay home and watch a movie... but for XMas work parties and family things your single-ness is right out there in the open.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top