Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Sounds like a bunch of shallow women, to me.Francisco d'Anconia said:I've noticed over the years that women are more on "the catch" after New Years. They tend to break up with ex's as a resolution and are anxious to have a new guy by Valentine's Day. However as usual, beware of being the "rebound guy." :nono:
exactly.Cancerian said:Sounds like a bunch of shallow women, to me.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yeah, and???...Cancerian said:Sounds like a bunch of shallow women, to me.
Please publish your studies statistics. How many women exactly were involved in your New Years to Valentines day survey. I want to see the GRAPHS and research followed by a nice powerpoint. :kick:Francisco d'Anconia said:Yeah, and???...![]()
You mean I have to make a spreadsheet? I thought someone else was the forum's resident Excel jockey.Charm said:Please publish your studies statistics. How many women exactly were involved in your New Years to Valentines day survey. I want to see the GRAPHS and research followed by a nice powerpoint. :kick:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Not a good thing to give gifts to a person you just met. If you must do something, text them with a plain old "Happy V-Day," nothing more. It's like meeting someone and finding out it's their birthday. Are you going to give them a present or will you just wish them a happy birthday?Raikojo17 said:so, they get excited. but would they think of u as AFC if u try and it them wit all that valentines love stuff and u just met them?
Shallow women are to be cast aside.Francisco d'Anconia said:Yeah, and???...![]()
What??? Are you saying that guys should qualify women instead of going after any woman just because she gives him a little attention (perhaps because she thinks he has money)?Cancerian said:Shallow women are to be cast aside.
It is up to each man to do as he wishes. But I myself have very little time or patience for the games of a shallow woman. That is not to say that I wouldn't have fun with them (temporarily), but they would be good only as a FB or social proof (if they are attractive). Once their shallowness becomes too apparent, they should be cast aside for the benefit of oneself. I think only an AFC would let it get to the point where she left him for someone else. A DJ would see the writing on the wall and pre-emptively dump her.Francisco d'Anconia said:What??? Are you saying that guys should qualify women instead of going after any woman just because she gives him a little attention (perhaps because she thinks he has money)?![]()
Seems simple, doesn't it?Cancerian said:It is up to each man to do as he wishes. But I myself have very little time or patience for the games of a shallow woman. That is not to say that I wouldn't have fun with them (temporarily), but they would be good only as a FB or social proof (if they are attractive). Once their shallowness becomes too apparent, they should be cast aside for the benefit of oneself. I think only an AFC would let it get to the point where she left him for someone else. A DJ would see the writing on the wall and pre-emptively dump her.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I like to believe so!Francisco d'Anconia said:Seems simple, doesn't it?