Okay, so this girl i've been goign after for the past few weeks has fianllypaid off...Were both getting our licenses on Monday and she asked me to hang out with her afterwards. Now I've hung out with her AND her friends with me AND my friends but I've NEVER hung out with her alone and I'm getting worried its goign to be awkward....can someone give me some ideas on what to do with this girl.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
dk wtf to do
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The Master Disaster
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Take her to a place that has something to be watched but you still talk to her. So there are no akward moments. Like a football game you still talk to her but you can also watch the game. If you take her to a movie you'll still have akward moments because you can't talk in movies. Just take her to somewhere where you have entertainment but you may still talk.
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She has already given you the biggest sign of interest by requesting to hang out with you. You already have her hooked, wich is good, the next step is to create some rapport and to get her more comfortable around you. Since you both got your license tell her your a better driver, she will most likely object, have her prove it to you. The when she does you can bust her on every small thing (ie. going 1mph above the limit, tell her she drives like your grandma etc.)
When you hang with her just follow the phases of seduction.
When you hang with her just follow the phases of seduction.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
yea i kinda figured taht when asking me to hang out that was a pretty big sign, however i don't really hang out with 1 girl at one time its usually my friends and her friends when we hang out so i'm just worried about what to talk about or what to do but yea thanks SP
*edit*also i was just thinking...do you think if i bought this girl a bday card it would be a bad thing or a good thing? I've known her for about 5 years but we really haven't talked in about 4 years up until about 3 weeks ago.
*edit*also i was just thinking...do you think if i bought this girl a bday card it would be a bad thing or a good thing? I've known her for about 5 years but we really haven't talked in about 4 years up until about 3 weeks ago.
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arutha
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Birthday cards are overrated. It one of those things that really doesn't matter either way, a day later no one will remember or mention it whichever way you went and no one will care.
If you want to, then do, if you don't want to then don't. Simple as that.
Unless she invites you to a party or you're doing something for her birthday or something, then do.
If you want to, then do, if you don't want to then don't. Simple as that.
Unless she invites you to a party or you're doing something for her birthday or something, then do.