Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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DJBC A-Team -Week 2

Evolution

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Congratulations A-Team for Completing Week 1!

These are the DJ's who have completed their excercises and will be moving on to week 2.

Week 2 *Standby* 5/4/08-5/11/08

Cry For Love
Dole
EnriTT
Evolution
hyphy101
GaryUranga
John_anthony
Teh_Wolf
Tyzef


The BC will be using the following as guidelines:

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/djbc.pdf
or word Version:
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/djbc.doc

1-2-3

1) Responsibilities
- Do the reading for each week
- Complete the exercises for each week
- Write a Report at the end of the week

2) In addition, you may:

- Listen to the music (recommended to get into the mood )
- Report any time during the week in this thread
- Ask questions in this thread
- Give tips in this thread
If you learn anything new that you think is valuable to others, you are encouraged to post in this thread.

3) Week 2 - Exercises:

> Ten 2-10 minute conversations with strangers.

Now Goodluck DJ's, go get em!
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Evolution

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Ok, I went to my old high school, talked to random ppl, about how their school yr is doing so far.

5/10 Convo's.

*update* Went to Inn and Out talked to a guy about extreme frisby.
Went to target talked to a women about sunprotection.
 
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hey! I finished too. some of us just had finals to study for. Anyways i finished week one. Week two will be really easy but really lame. I have to go to something and i gaurantee it'll be like all dudes. But at least they'll be all strangers. but still, lame.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Teh_Wolf

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5/10, went to a tailgate party, it was pretty small and i knew alot of people otherwise it woulda been more. but probably going to a party tommorrow then im going to a drive in movie so i should be finished tommorrow :p
 

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10/10+

Went to my old High School, talked to alot of ppl, even got a yr book signing for someone I didn't even k now. I said "Alright, i'll right something inspirational."

On the way out of the library, saw a group of 5 ppl chatted em up and even got their facebook, awesome
 

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Progress Report

Cry For Love -Need Report-
Dole -Need Report-
EnriTT 4/10
Evolution -Completed-
hyphy101 -Need Report-
GaryUranga 6/10
John_anthony -Need Report-
Teh_Wolf 5/10
Tyzef 7/10
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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GaryUranga

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finished today, for next week im going to start makign conversations even with the people I know, usually Im not makign too much convo or askign questions I recently noticed this, its a skill I could practise even with my mom the fact of making conversation which is what I noticed Im failing at

10/10
 

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ok so i guess im not on the roster because i might have posted in the wrong places for results lol.

but week 1 i got all 50 greetings in, plus more the last week or two, and then last week i got all 10 convos in (5 with a group at SAT's, 2 with friends of a friend, and 3 at a grad party). But now i have to stop doing DJBC because I have a girlfriend. GG. I might be posting in the DJ discussion forum for some pointers or something but i think i can handle it from here on out.

Good luck guys.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Tyzef

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Week 3:
So far: 0 convos with girls :(
I had 2 opportunities in the street to talk with HBs but I didn't take it, still don't have the balls to do it. Today,I wish I could
 

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week 3 should be easier :p think about it like this, last week you just had to talk to 10 random people, now you get to talk to 10 attractive girls :p you should enjoy it more eh haha
 

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Week 2

Sorry for the late post, I have been very busy.

Task done 10/10 :D
 

hyphy101

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Yeah i got waaaayyy more then the required amount of convos. I had to spend a week practically at a training seminar for my sport. Unfortunately no HBs. but i got the convos done so what ever.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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