"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DJBC A-Team -Week 2

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Congratulations A-Team for Completing Week 1!

These are the DJ's who have completed their excercises and will be moving on to week 2.

Week 2 *Standby* 5/4/08-5/11/08

Cry For Love
Dole
EnriTT
Evolution
hyphy101
GaryUranga
John_anthony
Teh_Wolf
Tyzef


The BC will be using the following as guidelines:

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/djbc.pdf
or word Version:
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/djbc.doc

1-2-3

1) Responsibilities
- Do the reading for each week
- Complete the exercises for each week
- Write a Report at the end of the week

2) In addition, you may:

- Listen to the music (recommended to get into the mood )
- Report any time during the week in this thread
- Ask questions in this thread
- Give tips in this thread
If you learn anything new that you think is valuable to others, you are encouraged to post in this thread.

3) Week 2 - Exercises:

> Ten 2-10 minute conversations with strangers.

Now Goodluck DJ's, go get em!
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ok, I went to my old high school, talked to random ppl, about how their school yr is doing so far.

5/10 Convo's.

*update* Went to Inn and Out talked to a guy about extreme frisby.
Went to target talked to a women about sunprotection.
 
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hey! I finished too. some of us just had finals to study for. Anyways i finished week one. Week two will be really easy but really lame. I have to go to something and i gaurantee it'll be like all dudes. But at least they'll be all strangers. but still, lame.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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5/10, went to a tailgate party, it was pretty small and i knew alot of people otherwise it woulda been more. but probably going to a party tommorrow then im going to a drive in movie so i should be finished tommorrow :p
 
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10/10+

Went to my old High School, talked to alot of ppl, even got a yr book signing for someone I didn't even k now. I said "Alright, i'll right something inspirational."

On the way out of the library, saw a group of 5 ppl chatted em up and even got their facebook, awesome
 
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Progress Report

Cry For Love -Need Report-
Dole -Need Report-
EnriTT 4/10
Evolution -Completed-
hyphy101 -Need Report-
GaryUranga 6/10
John_anthony -Need Report-
Teh_Wolf 5/10
Tyzef 7/10
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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finished today, for next week im going to start makign conversations even with the people I know, usually Im not makign too much convo or askign questions I recently noticed this, its a skill I could practise even with my mom the fact of making conversation which is what I noticed Im failing at

10/10
 
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ok so i guess im not on the roster because i might have posted in the wrong places for results lol.

but week 1 i got all 50 greetings in, plus more the last week or two, and then last week i got all 10 convos in (5 with a group at SAT's, 2 with friends of a friend, and 3 at a grad party). But now i have to stop doing DJBC because I have a girlfriend. GG. I might be posting in the DJ discussion forum for some pointers or something but i think i can handle it from here on out.

Good luck guys.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Week 3:
So far: 0 convos with girls :(
I had 2 opportunities in the street to talk with HBs but I didn't take it, still don't have the balls to do it. Today,I wish I could
 
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week 3 should be easier :p think about it like this, last week you just had to talk to 10 random people, now you get to talk to 10 attractive girls :p you should enjoy it more eh haha
 
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Week 2

Sorry for the late post, I have been very busy.

Task done 10/10 :D
 
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Yeah i got waaaayyy more then the required amount of convos. I had to spend a week practically at a training seminar for my sport. Unfortunately no HBs. but i got the convos done so what ever.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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