"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
DJ with no guy friends?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I never said it was cool to not have guy friends, I just don't see why it would be a problem.Originally posted by NoBull
Fatality,
Just admit you have problems creating strong friendships with guys instead of coming up with reasons that it's cool not to have guy friends.
Admitting you have a problem is the first step to recovery.
I don't think i have a problem at all. If I had a problem I would really want to have many guy friends but I really don't care about having guy friends. When i was with my guy friends in high school it alwyas turned into a competition but then I realized that I was better off by myself. I'm just a loner and I don't need a guy friend to hold my hand when I go out.
joecollapoppa
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You gotta have guy friends, simply beacuse they're cool to hang out with and you can be more yourself. Im usually the ring leader in a group of guy friends. We make fun of girls sometimes and its fun. You get more social proof to the girls the more guy friends you have. If you hang around too many girls, you might be percieved as some type of pretty boy. Yall can swap stories about failed missions with girls and laugh. Play sports. Etc. I hang out with groups of women too but its like I can't be as raw as I wanna without offending. LOL
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
i would suggest trying to find people who have the same passions as u do. untill u find people like that its cool to be a loner. the point is that you need to be secure with yourself if u have friends or not. than if u want friends u wont seem desperate and the type of people u want to hang out with will respect u more.
if u won't even consider having male friends thats ok too. it helps to have male friends and its not essential.