"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
DJ with no guy friends?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I never said it was cool to not have guy friends, I just don't see why it would be a problem.Originally posted by NoBull
Fatality,
Just admit you have problems creating strong friendships with guys instead of coming up with reasons that it's cool not to have guy friends.
Admitting you have a problem is the first step to recovery.
I don't think i have a problem at all. If I had a problem I would really want to have many guy friends but I really don't care about having guy friends. When i was with my guy friends in high school it alwyas turned into a competition but then I realized that I was better off by myself. I'm just a loner and I don't need a guy friend to hold my hand when I go out.
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You gotta have guy friends, simply beacuse they're cool to hang out with and you can be more yourself. Im usually the ring leader in a group of guy friends. We make fun of girls sometimes and its fun. You get more social proof to the girls the more guy friends you have. If you hang around too many girls, you might be percieved as some type of pretty boy. Yall can swap stories about failed missions with girls and laugh. Play sports. Etc. I hang out with groups of women too but its like I can't be as raw as I wanna without offending. LOL
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
i would suggest trying to find people who have the same passions as u do. untill u find people like that its cool to be a loner. the point is that you need to be secure with yourself if u have friends or not. than if u want friends u wont seem desperate and the type of people u want to hang out with will respect u more.
if u won't even consider having male friends thats ok too. it helps to have male friends and its not essential.