"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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So nothing has been going on lately, pretty damn focused on HB9model right now. I may be making a mistake talking to her daily and seeing her a couple times a week so I may lay off for a week or so to get her IL back up. Was supposed to head down and have dinner with her and a few of her friends on tuesday night but I was working out and 1. I didn't want to cut my workout short, and 2. can't be too available.
 

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Sadao said:
So nothing has been going on lately, pretty damn focused on HB9model right now. I may be making a mistake talking to her daily and seeing her a couple times a week so I may lay off for a week or so to get her IL back up. Was supposed to head down and have dinner with her and a few of her friends on tuesday night but I was working out and 1. I didn't want to cut my workout short, and 2. can't be too available.
Talking everyday on phone? (If so) I hope it's not you who's initiating the calls :p
 

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Talking everyday on phone? (If so) I hope it's not you who's initiating the calls :p
varies through phone, text, myspace, facebook, aim. I actually can't think of a single time i've initiated conversation with her, so there's a plus. I've ignored a text from her just a few minutes ago saying "don't say hi to me or anything online!" after I had signed on aol and off without talking to her.
 

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varies through phone, text, myspace, facebook, aim. I actually can't think of a single time i've initiated conversation with her, so there's a plus. I've ignored a text from her just a few minutes ago saying "don't say hi to me or anything online!" after I had signed on aol and off without talking to her.
While it's good to remain aloof, if you're never initiating convos she is gonna stop doing her part. You should throw her a bone every now and then to keep her goin...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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While it's good to remain aloof, if you're never initiating convos she is gonna stop doing her part. You should throw her a bone every now and then to keep her goin...
good point.
 

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So remember when i asked HB8.5skinny for her number and she rejected saying she had given it out 3 times that day or some stupid ****. Well, i keep getting fools coming up to me saying "so i hear hb8.5skinny totally shot you down", like probably 5 times now. This ***** is starting to piss me off because A. she has high IL and was just displaying a sense of value to me, i could have gotten it by now but i just haven't cared to. And B. **** these losers that come up to me, at least i had the balls to ask her. But in my opinion she's BRAGGING about shooting me down since it's rare and anyone else would have given it up.

edit: HB9model is back at UCSB tonight partying it up with a couple friends. She didn't invite me but i'm not thinking anything of it, probably because she tried to meet with me twice this week and i wasn't able to, so maybe she gave up. Also, i think it's sort of a girls night out thing and i hate to be the fool that crashes that ****. And finally, we aren't exclusive, so i really have nothing to worry about whatsoever, she's her own woman for now. Gonna catch up on some well deserved rest and call her in the morning to join me for breakfast or lunch (keep in mind i'm merely inviting her to tag along with ME, rather than making it sound like a date.)
 

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So remember when i asked HB8.5skinny for her number and she rejected saying she had given it out 3 times that day or some stupid ****. Well, i keep getting fools coming up to me saying "so i hear hb8.5skinny totally shot you down", like probably 5 times now. This ***** is starting to piss me off because A. she has high IL and was just displaying a sense of value to me, i could have gotten it by now but i just haven't cared to. And B. **** these losers that come up to me, at least i had the balls to ask her. But in my opinion she's BRAGGING about shooting me down since it's rare and anyone else would have given it up.
That's actually quiet funny... seeing as how you can score more than any of those chumps :p
That girl just boosting her ego braggin about it.
 

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I almost went off on this fool who brought it up because i know for a fact he's a huge AFC (his ex gf is HB7straight, you know, the one that ****ing stalks me? and she tells me stories), but i restrained myself because i'm a cool cat like that and i didn't want to hurt his feelings.
 

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So i've got a little bit of a problem. Summer is coming up and everyone is moving away for college (myself included, oh yea, moving to santa barbara now instead of arizona) and weekends won't be as exciting or crackin as it is now. Might be in a slump as to where to bring/meet up with chicks since i'm not too into the formal "date" thing. Things will be amazing again in the fall when college life starts, but until then weekends will be pretty dead.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Shouldnt summer be all about fun and vacationing? Why is everyone moving away for the summer?

Get more hours at work though then if you won't have much to do.
 

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Shouldnt summer be all about fun and vacationing? Why is everyone moving away for the summer?

Get more hours at work though then if you won't have much to do.
not talking about me being bored, i can't pull the whole bringing girls to parties thing since there won't be many.
 

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I'm mad jealous of ur progress man! Very good work, half this **** i didn't even think was really that do-able. I couldn't do it...dont' got the balls for that kind of risk in the workplace. Also for these FRs, ur writing is pretty good...even if it contains some strong language..i like that way funny as hell. This is good inspiration for me to continue in the game.

I thought sosuave was wack for a while, but this FR alone is worth going to this site.

Forgot to mention, i like how you're sexual with these girls, thats a big problem with many guys out in the feild, i have this problem too, that they don't convey that they're a sexual being but...u, like fallen, got that **** covered. Keep it pimpin and want to hear more of HBModel and HBBakery.
 

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I'm mad jealous of ur progress man! Very good work, half this **** i didn't even think was really that do-able. I couldn't do it...dont' got the balls for that kind of risk in the workplace. Also for these FRs, ur writing is pretty good...even if it contains some strong language..i like that way funny as hell. This is good inspiration for me to continue in the game.

I thought sosuave was wack for a while, but this FR alone is worth going to this site.

Forgot to mention, i like how you're sexual with these girls, thats a big problem with many guys out in the feild, i have this problem too, that they don't convey that they're a sexual being but...u, like fallen, got that **** covered. Keep it pimpin and want to hear more of HBModel and HBBakery.
thanks man, i'll try to get the fr's closer to what they used to be, involving conversations and whatnot, just recently only been trying to progress with hb9model
 

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Was at work last night and was horny as **** for some reason. I recalled me and my friend talking a couple weeks ago about how a porn site would be amazing cash flow and extremely easy to do, just need to find a girl willing to have her own site. So i stroll on over to the bakery..

Me: Yo, 100% honesty, would you ever do porn?
HB7bakery: Yes *smiles*
Me: Haha, **** yea.
HB7bakery: Yea I was going to record myself once but I forgot.
Me: What do you think of having your own site.
HB7bakery: Hmmm, not sure, would have to deal with the fact of so many people watching me.
Me: Yea but think about it, say you only had 500 members which is a very low number. The average member fee is $30 a month, that's 15g a month divided by how many people run the site, 3 or whatever.
HB7bakery: Wow, that's really good.
Me: Mmhmm, and i'm SURE we could get more than 500 members, if you're good enough that is.
HB7bakery: Haha, are you trying to profit off me?
Me: We'd all be profiting.
HB7bakery: I dunno
Me: I'll join you in a couple videos.
HB7bakery: Haha

Placing hand on lower back..
Me: How about you let me know, because if not you, we'll find someone else. Getting paid to get ****ed, what could be better?
Walks off.

I am for sure down with this idea, and this girl is freaky enough to do it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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**** I hate emotions sometimes.

Ok so a couple days ago a great friend of mine from san fran tells me he's going to spend the weekend in santa barbara and wants to party with me. So we make plans to chill on friday(tonight) and i go ahead and invite hb9model and her good friend, they are in and willing to drive as well. So friday morning I get a call from my friend saying he's not going to make it down this weekend. I proceed to tell hb9model but she's still down to go up there and party, i agree but have to work until 9:30pm so they can either wait for me or i'll meet them there, she says for me to meet them cause they want to leave at 7:30 or so. I then get a couple other friends to come up with me but last minute they cancel as well, so it's lookin like i'm gonna roll up there solo and meet up with hb9model and her friend. So i call to find out what time she's gonna be there, no answer and I don't leave messages. An hour or more later I send her a text asking if she's on her way up, no response... So now i'm kickin it at home and wondering wtf, i know her IL is high and this whole thing originally was me inviting her to come up to UCSB with me and party, so it's kind of confusing. I sure as **** won't be contacting her anytime soon, the ball is in her court.
 

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Was at work last night and was horny as **** for some reason. I recalled me and my friend talking a couple weeks ago about how a porn site would be amazing cash flow and extremely easy to do, just need to find a girl willing to have her own site. So i stroll on over to the bakery..

Me: Yo, 100% honesty, would you ever do porn?
HB7bakery: Yes *smiles*
Me: Haha, **** yea.
HB7bakery: Yea I was going to record myself once but I forgot.
Me: What do you think of having your own site.
HB7bakery: Hmmm, not sure, would have to deal with the fact of so many people watching me.
Me: Yea but think about it, say you only had 500 members which is a very low number. The average member fee is $30 a month, that's 15g a month divided by how many people run the site, 3 or whatever.
HB7bakery: Wow, that's really good.
Me: Mmhmm, and i'm SURE we could get more than 500 members, if you're good enough that is.
HB7bakery: Haha, are you trying to profit off me?
Me: We'd all be profiting.
HB7bakery: I dunno
Me: I'll join you in a couple videos.
HB7bakery: Haha

Placing hand on lower back..
Me: How about you let me know, because if not you, we'll find someone else. Getting paid to get ****ed, what could be better?
Walks off.

I am for sure down with this idea, and this girl is freaky enough to do it.
NICE!!:up:

That's ****ing awesome :crackup:
 

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ok so she messages me on myspace and then aim tonight. Apparently she had called me back but i didn't answer (believable because she contacted me asking what happened to me last night and why i didn't call back, also because i don't get reception for **** at my work.). So this is good news because she didn't ditch me, but her night did turn out a lot different than it would have if i had been there. Apparently her and her 2 friends got split up from the group and ended up at some house in the jacuzzi with like 4 dudes. Not too happy about that, but hey, she's not my girlfriend and she didn't give me reason to believe she hooked up with anyone. This upcoming Friday is her prom and i'll know exactly how she feels about me after that night, so i'm looking forward to it. Almost positive i'll have an F close since she's hinted around about it and we've hooked up before.
 

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I put in 35 dollars for a no close, gonna be almost at 4th base but something at prom is gonna try to change it.

Oh wait...i actually like this member on the forum....50 bucks on the close :-D
 

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DonJoseCantosie said:
I put in 35 dollars for a no close, gonna be almost at 4th base but something at prom is gonna try to change it.

Oh wait...i actually like this member on the forum....50 bucks on the close :-D
haha. I was about to tell you that you'll be out 35 bucks in 5 days :)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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