"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ditching female friends for GF

The Truth

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Whats your opinion on this?

I am in a 8 month relationship and all is good but I ran into a female friend in town last week and we went for coffee to catch up just as friends! I had nothing to hide so I told my gf and she got upset and said even though she trusts me the thought of me just hanging with another woman made her feel uncomfortable. I said I feel the same if she goes out with male friends and she said that she will stop going out with male friends if I stop going out with female friends unless its part of a mixed group or we are together.

It is a big step but if she is willing to do that for me then I am for her.

Do you think this is a bad move?

How should I explain to my friends I cant see them alone any more?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Charm&Style

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i predict you 2 are going to get bored of each other in 6 months and break up.
 

NoNickname

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I think you should be fine with her being with male friends, and even though she feels uncomfortable about it, I think you should keep being with your female friends.
Don't become too attached to eachother.
 

Jariel

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I'm in a similar position. I have a lot of female friends and many of them are young and attractive (I've been involved with some and many of them have/had a thing for me) so I generally avoid one on one meetings with them. However, I've not ditched them; I just arrange to go out with them in a group instead.

I believe if you posted a "my girlfriend goes out with a male friend" kind of thread on here, most replies would advise you to be on guard, so it's understandable your gf is uncomfortable with you going out with a female friend. If she is willing to do the same, it's a positive sign of mutual comitment.

But never ditch your friends, whether they are male or female, because a) you never know when you'll need them and b) you will become too dependent on your girlfriend.
 

Whatevs

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Freinds are forever, girlfriends come and go.

You ought to be chill with her hanging out with dudes though, just don't be oblivious to things.

If you guys both trust eachother it shouldnt be a problem
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Donsing

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She's just insecure that she might loose to a better female,and you are also insecure about loosing her. If you know you are not trying to cheat on your girlfriend then their is nothing to feel guilty or bad about.
 

T Money

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She should trust you.

With her though, it's not that you don't trust her, it's that you don't trust other guys, am I right?

Women can't seem to understand this concept.
 
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