"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ditching female friends for GF

The Truth

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Whats your opinion on this?

I am in a 8 month relationship and all is good but I ran into a female friend in town last week and we went for coffee to catch up just as friends! I had nothing to hide so I told my gf and she got upset and said even though she trusts me the thought of me just hanging with another woman made her feel uncomfortable. I said I feel the same if she goes out with male friends and she said that she will stop going out with male friends if I stop going out with female friends unless its part of a mixed group or we are together.

It is a big step but if she is willing to do that for me then I am for her.

Do you think this is a bad move?

How should I explain to my friends I cant see them alone any more?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Charm&Style

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i predict you 2 are going to get bored of each other in 6 months and break up.
 

NoNickname

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I think you should be fine with her being with male friends, and even though she feels uncomfortable about it, I think you should keep being with your female friends.
Don't become too attached to eachother.
 

Jariel

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I'm in a similar position. I have a lot of female friends and many of them are young and attractive (I've been involved with some and many of them have/had a thing for me) so I generally avoid one on one meetings with them. However, I've not ditched them; I just arrange to go out with them in a group instead.

I believe if you posted a "my girlfriend goes out with a male friend" kind of thread on here, most replies would advise you to be on guard, so it's understandable your gf is uncomfortable with you going out with a female friend. If she is willing to do the same, it's a positive sign of mutual comitment.

But never ditch your friends, whether they are male or female, because a) you never know when you'll need them and b) you will become too dependent on your girlfriend.
 

Whatevs

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Freinds are forever, girlfriends come and go.

You ought to be chill with her hanging out with dudes though, just don't be oblivious to things.

If you guys both trust eachother it shouldnt be a problem
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Donsing

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She's just insecure that she might loose to a better female,and you are also insecure about loosing her. If you know you are not trying to cheat on your girlfriend then their is nothing to feel guilty or bad about.
 

T Money

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She should trust you.

With her though, it's not that you don't trust her, it's that you don't trust other guys, am I right?

Women can't seem to understand this concept.
 
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