"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Ditching female friends for GF

The Truth

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Whats your opinion on this?

I am in a 8 month relationship and all is good but I ran into a female friend in town last week and we went for coffee to catch up just as friends! I had nothing to hide so I told my gf and she got upset and said even though she trusts me the thought of me just hanging with another woman made her feel uncomfortable. I said I feel the same if she goes out with male friends and she said that she will stop going out with male friends if I stop going out with female friends unless its part of a mixed group or we are together.

It is a big step but if she is willing to do that for me then I am for her.

Do you think this is a bad move?

How should I explain to my friends I cant see them alone any more?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Charm&Style

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i predict you 2 are going to get bored of each other in 6 months and break up.
 

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I think you should be fine with her being with male friends, and even though she feels uncomfortable about it, I think you should keep being with your female friends.
Don't become too attached to eachother.
 

Jariel

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I'm in a similar position. I have a lot of female friends and many of them are young and attractive (I've been involved with some and many of them have/had a thing for me) so I generally avoid one on one meetings with them. However, I've not ditched them; I just arrange to go out with them in a group instead.

I believe if you posted a "my girlfriend goes out with a male friend" kind of thread on here, most replies would advise you to be on guard, so it's understandable your gf is uncomfortable with you going out with a female friend. If she is willing to do the same, it's a positive sign of mutual comitment.

But never ditch your friends, whether they are male or female, because a) you never know when you'll need them and b) you will become too dependent on your girlfriend.
 

Whatevs

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Freinds are forever, girlfriends come and go.

You ought to be chill with her hanging out with dudes though, just don't be oblivious to things.

If you guys both trust eachother it shouldnt be a problem
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Donsing

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She's just insecure that she might loose to a better female,and you are also insecure about loosing her. If you know you are not trying to cheat on your girlfriend then their is nothing to feel guilty or bad about.
 

T Money

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She should trust you.

With her though, it's not that you don't trust her, it's that you don't trust other guys, am I right?

Women can't seem to understand this concept.
 
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