"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Discussion about Mixed Messages

Naters

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I wont go into specifics here, but what are some tips to filter through mixed messages and figure out what is actually being expressed by a girl?

For example, which of these hold the most value? least value?
Actions
Words
1st hand info
2nd hand info
Info from guy friends of girl
Info from girl friends of girl
Info from my guy friends
Info from my girl friends
Anything else you can think of

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar

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You pretty much put it in order there.. but I dunno some things are more valid with different people.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Naters said:
I wont go into specifics here, but what are some tips to filter through mixed messages and figure out what is actually being expressed by a girl?

For example, which of these hold the most value? least value?
Actions
Words
1st hand info
2nd hand info
Info from guy friends of girl
Info from girl friends of girl
Info from my guy friends
Info from my girl friends
Anything else you can think of

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  1. What she tells you after you ask her specific questions.
 

Plec07

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Actions for me. I rarely listen to/remember what they say anyway. I'm always paying all my attention to her body language.
 

Bvbidd

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Actions and mabye if your lucky what girl friend of her says.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Alkali

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Depends completely on the people.

Actions can be misleading if the girl is shy.

Friends might be treacherous, overzealous, etc.
 

cobrajoe

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Good luck actually making a list, in all the interactions I've had with women, I've never been able to make out any specific pattern at all.
 
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