"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
disarm this neghit.
- Thread starter nighter
- Start date
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Doesn't really disarm it or anything- its just something I would do!
Or maybe I would say "Thank you!" and treat it like the biggest compliment I've ever had. :rock:
Honestly though, there are better things to worry about than a good comeback for some stupid line your girl throws at you. And besides, you make it sound like a battle between you two..."Disarm" the neghit..."Neutralise" the threat...jeeze. Enjoy yourself! Its a relationship, not Iraq. Make peace, not war. :flowers:
Yeah I would probably say something like "I'm lucky I have somebody so big and threatening to protect me, thanks for being there for me."
But it's only a neghit if it affects you that way. If you are feeling "small and cute," go lift weights or something to help yourself get over that self-image.
I've found that muay thai/jiu-jitsu has helped me overcome the last negative facets of my self-image. It's pretty liberating to not be weighed down by self-consciousness anymore. Not saying you need to go out and start training to be a cage fighter or get jacked, but find something that you enjoy that helps boost your confidence. Neghits will roll off you then.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Cloud-uk
Master Don Juan
But then I am quite odd.....