"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
disarm this neghit.
- Thread starter nighter
- Start date
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Doesn't really disarm it or anything- its just something I would do!
Or maybe I would say "Thank you!" and treat it like the biggest compliment I've ever had. :rock:
Honestly though, there are better things to worry about than a good comeback for some stupid line your girl throws at you. And besides, you make it sound like a battle between you two..."Disarm" the neghit..."Neutralise" the threat...jeeze. Enjoy yourself! Its a relationship, not Iraq. Make peace, not war. :flowers:
Yeah I would probably say something like "I'm lucky I have somebody so big and threatening to protect me, thanks for being there for me."
But it's only a neghit if it affects you that way. If you are feeling "small and cute," go lift weights or something to help yourself get over that self-image.
I've found that muay thai/jiu-jitsu has helped me overcome the last negative facets of my self-image. It's pretty liberating to not be weighed down by self-consciousness anymore. Not saying you need to go out and start training to be a cage fighter or get jacked, but find something that you enjoy that helps boost your confidence. Neghits will roll off you then.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Cloud-uk
Master Don Juan
But then I am quite odd.....