"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
disarm this neghit.
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- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Doesn't really disarm it or anything- its just something I would do!
Or maybe I would say "Thank you!" and treat it like the biggest compliment I've ever had. :rock:
Honestly though, there are better things to worry about than a good comeback for some stupid line your girl throws at you. And besides, you make it sound like a battle between you two..."Disarm" the neghit..."Neutralise" the threat...jeeze. Enjoy yourself! Its a relationship, not Iraq. Make peace, not war. :flowers:
Yeah I would probably say something like "I'm lucky I have somebody so big and threatening to protect me, thanks for being there for me."
But it's only a neghit if it affects you that way. If you are feeling "small and cute," go lift weights or something to help yourself get over that self-image.
I've found that muay thai/jiu-jitsu has helped me overcome the last negative facets of my self-image. It's pretty liberating to not be weighed down by self-consciousness anymore. Not saying you need to go out and start training to be a cage fighter or get jacked, but find something that you enjoy that helps boost your confidence. Neghits will roll off you then.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Master Don Juan
But then I am quite odd.....