"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Direct game

Magnatolia

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Hey all,

I haven't any field experience, still trying to get over my anxiety. But I posted a question on a question/answer site on whether women preferred direct (came over because he found you atttractive) or indirect (treat you like an old friend, and asked for your number or a date at the end).

So far 6 for direct. The other four responses didn't actually answer the question.

I'm gonna go for the direct. The girl will most likely be flattered/impressed cos guys rarely say that - they either game her indirectly or catcall. You don't need to spend 10-15 minutes talking with her & building rapport to find out she's not interested, or she has a bf. And you don't have to ensure that you're giving off direct interest signs as she already knows.

And if you like to leave em hanging, this is perfect. Here's an example off my head:

You: "Hey, I'm on my way to catch the train, but you really caught my eye and I just had to say. So yeah, hi." If she gives a positive IOI, move on.

"We should get together sometime, see if you're the full package. What's your number?"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tomatoes

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Direct game does cut all the bull**** out.
 

blinkwatt

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Magnatolia trust me. Try it once and you will see the look on their faces and how they will look into your eyes trying to search and find out more about you.
 

Sean O

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Good post, Shezz. I agree that the opener is the tricky part, but after that it's a cakewalk.

For moving targets you have to stop them and slowly move your body so that you turn them around from the way that they were going initially...
Could you explain what you mean by "slowly move your body"?
 

Turncoat

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Magnatolia, my biggest, quickest and most potent pick-ups have been hard-hitting, fast and direct. No indirect bull****.

I SHOW AND TELL women i'm horny, I misbehave around them all the time, i grab their asses, and use ****y/funny continously, I argue with them and i generally show them a great time. This is direct game. I don't beat around the bush. I just throw everything I got, and I even tell them i'm a man they should avoid. I tell them am an a$$hole, a bastard, a guy who has no respect for them and they not only think i'm the sweetest guy they met, they tell me "I trust you more than any other guy". It's because i'm blatantly honest.

Trust me, save yourself the trouble and go direct. If your congruent, your rejection rate will be near zero. Results are much faster too.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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