I really need serious help. I recently started debating. I can talk to anybody and everybody. But whenever I get on stage and start to give a speech in a room full of people. I just freeze. Can anyone tell me how I can solve this problem.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Different type of help needed from fellow DJ's
- Thread starter Moon Ram
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
DavenJuan
Master Don Juan
dont think about it. cliche i know but it works.
i use to be in theater and just ignored the crowd.
what also works is look at the back of the room. stare at the back wall and inevitably you will forget about the crowd.
i use to be in theater and just ignored the crowd.
what also works is look at the back of the room. stare at the back wall and inevitably you will forget about the crowd.
The fear of believing you'll make a fool of yourself on stage.
COWARD!!!!!
Just imagine them naked....like thats gonna work.
Just note, most people don't even listen to lectures or speeches. So there is very little chance they would care what you do on stage.
And even if they laugh at you, you well entertained them anyway.
COWARD!!!!!
Just imagine them naked....like thats gonna work.
Just note, most people don't even listen to lectures or speeches. So there is very little chance they would care what you do on stage.
And even if they laugh at you, you well entertained them anyway.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.