"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Did you notice a decrease of sleep quality with age?

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The older I get the lighter my sleep is.

I recall when I was a kid I felt asleep watching tv or slept with lights on while know even the red dot from the tv bothers me as much as any minor noise nearby from the walls.

Also I dont recall the last time I felt asleep unwillingly.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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If I cut back on drinking I sleep better. I tend to watch Netflix before sleeping (mostly foreign stuff with subtitles so I am reading at the same time). I have an advantage for external stimuli because I have at least 40% hearing loss. Try using ear plugs and see if you can tell the TV to dump the red dot or put tape over it. You have to find a way to wind your brain down. If you are thinking too much, you won’t sleep.
 

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The older I get the lighter my sleep is.

I recall when I was a kid I felt asleep watching tv or slept with lights on while know even the red dot from the tv bothers me as much as any minor noise nearby from the walls.

Also I dont recall the last time I felt asleep unwillingly.
May I know how old you are now?

I crave the feeling of falling asleep at noon on the couch without worrying about my life.
 

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Late 30s.
37 here.

I have major broken sleep, wake up every hour, then I freaking fall asleep properly when its time to get up around 8am. unbelievable.

Ive recently removed caffeine and put a silk blanket bunched all round and over my pillows(so my head feels like its literally in/surrounded by clouds)

Ive deffo slept better this last week
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm 31. Do you guys have any advice for me in terms of health?
 

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37 here.

I have major broken sleep, wake up every hour, then I freaking fall asleep properly when its time to get up around 8am. unbelievable.

Ive recently removed caffeine and put a silk blanket bunched all round and over my pillows(so my head feels like its literally in/surrounded by clouds)

Ive deffo slept better this last week
Same here, best sleep is right before waking up time...
 

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I used to sleep horrible. Been on testosterone optimization therapy for 2 years and I literally black out as soon as I hit the pillow and wake up 8 hours later. I am 40 years old
 

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I have a weird theory. If you live in northern or southern latitudes, the equinoxes are when the days are most rapidly changing from long>short or vice versa. The days are mostly the same length during the solstices. I often find that my sleep patterns are more disturbed around the equinox, and more stable around the solstice. We're only about 2 weeks past the vernal equinox.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I've always been an extremely light sleeper, even when I was younger I don't remember being able to sleep particularly easily. For instance I've literally never been able to sleep on a plane or a car even if I'm very tired.

Nowadays, I need a sleep mask (or pitch black room), white noise, stripped down to boxers, and cold temperatures (ideally 65f) just to be able to sleep, but I more importantly I also need to wind down for 2+ hrs beforehand, and take melatonin. If I'm in a pinch, not even sleeping pills will do anything.

I suppose as I get older I've noticed these things become more and more important but I have no doubt they would've helped when I was younger.

I've always been bemused by people who can fall asleep in 2 minutes in any location like its nothing.
 

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The older I get the lighter my sleep is.

I recall when I was a kid I felt asleep watching tv or slept with lights on while know even the red dot from the tv bothers me as much as any minor noise nearby from the walls.

Also I dont recall the last time I felt asleep unwillingly.
Yes, I can't sleep in... sleeping pills whatever, doesn't work. I sleep 6 hours every night and that's it.
 

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Yes, I can't sleep in... sleeping pills whatever, doesn't work. I sleep 6 hours every night and that's it.
How is your mood generally? did u notice an increase in stress, vigilance or being generally pissed off?
 

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How is your mood generally? did u notice an increase in stress, vigilance or being generally pissed off?
When I was working nights I was on a hair trigger. Now that I'm back on days I feel a lot less stressed. Might have something to do with your work time. I work in a place that, we have to be on alert 24/7 or someone might sneak up behind you and beat your head in with a lead pipe. So... might have something to do with that. I just bought a massive home gym and I intend to work myself into exhaustion every night before bed. Sick of this bull****.

I've always been bemused by people who can fall asleep in 2 minutes in any location like its nothing.
My wife can do this and she'll stay in bed the whole day if I don't drag her out. She's the only person I've ever seen who can sleep with her eyes OPEN.

I also have a badly deviated septum which I just found out about. Was about to get it done when coronavirus kicked back in here and we're all on lockdown again.
 
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Have you gotten checked for sleep apnea? Incredibly common and also extremely bad long term health effects.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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When I was working nights I was on a hair trigger. Now that I'm back on days I feel a lot less stressed. Might have something to do with your work time. I work in a place that, we have to be on alert 24/7 or someone might sneak up behind you and beat your head in with a lead pipe. So... might have something to do with that. I just bought a massive home gym and I intend to work myself into exhaustion every night before bed. Sick of this bull****.
I hear you, regarding the lifting hard I tried that but I notice that unless I got to sleep within two hours (that would prevent me a proper meal post workout), at some point it becomes counterproductive.

For some reason I find it easier to sleep mid day when it comes of being exhausted from the gym.
 

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chiropractic helps in some cases.
 

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I sleep early around 8, then tend to wake up around 1 or 3. I dabble watching videos, getting a snack and just chilling around that time. They say the time between 3 to 4 am is the devil’s hour where ugly spirits, ghosts and demons comes out. I can say this might be true because I can become arouse during this hour and want to play with myself lol.

If you’re practicing no fap or semen retention, being awake around 3 to 4 am can lead to a relapse if you’re not careful.
 

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Did you notice a decrease of sleep quality with age?
Nope.
Not even a jumbo jet crashing outside my home can wake me. I can sleep easily 12-14 hours straight if I want too and I'm really tired. :up:
But I usually sleep 7-8 hours, but 6 hours is ok too.
 

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So recommend a APAP machine for me. I'm gonna get a doc to write up a prescription for one, my benefits will cover a portion. My wife punched me in the side last night, I guess I was snoring so loud that I woke the entire house up.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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