"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Did you notice a decrease of sleep quality with age?

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The older I get the lighter my sleep is.

I recall when I was a kid I felt asleep watching tv or slept with lights on while know even the red dot from the tv bothers me as much as any minor noise nearby from the walls.

Also I dont recall the last time I felt asleep unwillingly.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If I cut back on drinking I sleep better. I tend to watch Netflix before sleeping (mostly foreign stuff with subtitles so I am reading at the same time). I have an advantage for external stimuli because I have at least 40% hearing loss. Try using ear plugs and see if you can tell the TV to dump the red dot or put tape over it. You have to find a way to wind your brain down. If you are thinking too much, you won’t sleep.
 

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The older I get the lighter my sleep is.

I recall when I was a kid I felt asleep watching tv or slept with lights on while know even the red dot from the tv bothers me as much as any minor noise nearby from the walls.

Also I dont recall the last time I felt asleep unwillingly.
May I know how old you are now?

I crave the feeling of falling asleep at noon on the couch without worrying about my life.
 

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Late 30s.
37 here.

I have major broken sleep, wake up every hour, then I freaking fall asleep properly when its time to get up around 8am. unbelievable.

Ive recently removed caffeine and put a silk blanket bunched all round and over my pillows(so my head feels like its literally in/surrounded by clouds)

Ive deffo slept better this last week
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm 31. Do you guys have any advice for me in terms of health?
 

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37 here.

I have major broken sleep, wake up every hour, then I freaking fall asleep properly when its time to get up around 8am. unbelievable.

Ive recently removed caffeine and put a silk blanket bunched all round and over my pillows(so my head feels like its literally in/surrounded by clouds)

Ive deffo slept better this last week
Same here, best sleep is right before waking up time...
 

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I used to sleep horrible. Been on testosterone optimization therapy for 2 years and I literally black out as soon as I hit the pillow and wake up 8 hours later. I am 40 years old
 

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I have a weird theory. If you live in northern or southern latitudes, the equinoxes are when the days are most rapidly changing from long>short or vice versa. The days are mostly the same length during the solstices. I often find that my sleep patterns are more disturbed around the equinox, and more stable around the solstice. We're only about 2 weeks past the vernal equinox.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I've always been an extremely light sleeper, even when I was younger I don't remember being able to sleep particularly easily. For instance I've literally never been able to sleep on a plane or a car even if I'm very tired.

Nowadays, I need a sleep mask (or pitch black room), white noise, stripped down to boxers, and cold temperatures (ideally 65f) just to be able to sleep, but I more importantly I also need to wind down for 2+ hrs beforehand, and take melatonin. If I'm in a pinch, not even sleeping pills will do anything.

I suppose as I get older I've noticed these things become more and more important but I have no doubt they would've helped when I was younger.

I've always been bemused by people who can fall asleep in 2 minutes in any location like its nothing.
 

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The older I get the lighter my sleep is.

I recall when I was a kid I felt asleep watching tv or slept with lights on while know even the red dot from the tv bothers me as much as any minor noise nearby from the walls.

Also I dont recall the last time I felt asleep unwillingly.
Yes, I can't sleep in... sleeping pills whatever, doesn't work. I sleep 6 hours every night and that's it.
 

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Yes, I can't sleep in... sleeping pills whatever, doesn't work. I sleep 6 hours every night and that's it.
How is your mood generally? did u notice an increase in stress, vigilance or being generally pissed off?
 

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How is your mood generally? did u notice an increase in stress, vigilance or being generally pissed off?
When I was working nights I was on a hair trigger. Now that I'm back on days I feel a lot less stressed. Might have something to do with your work time. I work in a place that, we have to be on alert 24/7 or someone might sneak up behind you and beat your head in with a lead pipe. So... might have something to do with that. I just bought a massive home gym and I intend to work myself into exhaustion every night before bed. Sick of this bull****.

I've always been bemused by people who can fall asleep in 2 minutes in any location like its nothing.
My wife can do this and she'll stay in bed the whole day if I don't drag her out. She's the only person I've ever seen who can sleep with her eyes OPEN.

I also have a badly deviated septum which I just found out about. Was about to get it done when coronavirus kicked back in here and we're all on lockdown again.
 
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Have you gotten checked for sleep apnea? Incredibly common and also extremely bad long term health effects.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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When I was working nights I was on a hair trigger. Now that I'm back on days I feel a lot less stressed. Might have something to do with your work time. I work in a place that, we have to be on alert 24/7 or someone might sneak up behind you and beat your head in with a lead pipe. So... might have something to do with that. I just bought a massive home gym and I intend to work myself into exhaustion every night before bed. Sick of this bull****.
I hear you, regarding the lifting hard I tried that but I notice that unless I got to sleep within two hours (that would prevent me a proper meal post workout), at some point it becomes counterproductive.

For some reason I find it easier to sleep mid day when it comes of being exhausted from the gym.
 

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chiropractic helps in some cases.
 

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I sleep early around 8, then tend to wake up around 1 or 3. I dabble watching videos, getting a snack and just chilling around that time. They say the time between 3 to 4 am is the devil’s hour where ugly spirits, ghosts and demons comes out. I can say this might be true because I can become arouse during this hour and want to play with myself lol.

If you’re practicing no fap or semen retention, being awake around 3 to 4 am can lead to a relapse if you’re not careful.
 

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Did you notice a decrease of sleep quality with age?
Nope.
Not even a jumbo jet crashing outside my home can wake me. I can sleep easily 12-14 hours straight if I want too and I'm really tired. :up:
But I usually sleep 7-8 hours, but 6 hours is ok too.
 

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So recommend a APAP machine for me. I'm gonna get a doc to write up a prescription for one, my benefits will cover a portion. My wife punched me in the side last night, I guess I was snoring so loud that I woke the entire house up.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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