"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Did I chad?!

Stallionstud

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just curious how I could have made this work.

So i went snowboarding, I’m waiting in line for the lift and wouldn’t you know there’s a solid 10 in front on me. I started talking about I don’t even know what, she’s friendly smiling laughing. A dude(her boyfriend) messing with his board behind us gets her attention. They argue a little she gets out of line (damn) they argue more. Next thing I see her stomping off. Apparently after the winey bad boy. They angerly argue and motion at each other 100’ away in a crowded area before I lose sight of her.

The whole time I’m just like.... I want this chic. fvck that dude he is dropping the ball. My game is not there yet though.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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marmel75

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There is nothing you could have done in that situation. You would have had to catch her by herself for a few minites and grabbed her number.
 

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that face when you get ****blocked by fate itself
 

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Girls argue with bf's all the time, it's not an automatic in for you.

You say the guy was "dropping the ball" but all you saw was an argument and her stomping off after him and by the sounds of it he still walked off from her. Should he be sucking her toes in public because she's a 10?
 

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Yeah the deck was stacked against me on that one. Maybe he walked off with her but that weak behavior looks like opportunity to me.

One of these days.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Women argue with men they aren't leaving.

It's when they won't argue/talk at all and get indifferent......that's when they hit the road.
Having said that, my ex admittedly caused arguments so I would end it... little did she know... I was far too content with mediocrity to leave her!
 
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