There was this girl in my class that I talked to and we met up a couple of times out of class. We met up for a project in the class but we had excellent eye contact and chemistry. She also kept touching my arm and shoulders. I sent her an email to have a good chrisitmas break on Tuesday and she sent me one back saying the same yesterday. Should I have asked her out for after Christmas break or will the break be too long of a time and I'll just move on to other girls?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Did I blow this one?
- Thread starter SamMalone
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You definitely should have made a move, any move. BUT fear not, as it is not too late... I don't know when you plan to see her again, but when you do, be sure to run some C&F on her.
The only thing that matters is that she does not see you like a friend... so don't act like one. I'd recommend stopping the emails.
I'd also recommend that you see other girls while she's out of the picture -- should keep you clear of oneitis-dom.
Best of luck.
-Bill
The only thing that matters is that she does not see you like a friend... so don't act like one. I'd recommend stopping the emails.
I'd also recommend that you see other girls while she's out of the picture -- should keep you clear of oneitis-dom.
Best of luck.
-Bill
DonJuanMonk
Master Don Juan
I agree with BIll, you are getting a tad bit of a one-itis going on.. .Careful. Don't go overboard unless you're certain you will get booty, if you get low booty action wavelengths from her, bow out asap.