There was this girl in my class that I talked to and we met up a couple of times out of class. We met up for a project in the class but we had excellent eye contact and chemistry. She also kept touching my arm and shoulders. I sent her an email to have a good chrisitmas break on Tuesday and she sent me one back saying the same yesterday. Should I have asked her out for after Christmas break or will the break be too long of a time and I'll just move on to other girls?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Did I blow this one?
- Thread starter SamMalone
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You definitely should have made a move, any move. BUT fear not, as it is not too late... I don't know when you plan to see her again, but when you do, be sure to run some C&F on her.
The only thing that matters is that she does not see you like a friend... so don't act like one. I'd recommend stopping the emails.
I'd also recommend that you see other girls while she's out of the picture -- should keep you clear of oneitis-dom.
Best of luck.
-Bill
The only thing that matters is that she does not see you like a friend... so don't act like one. I'd recommend stopping the emails.
I'd also recommend that you see other girls while she's out of the picture -- should keep you clear of oneitis-dom.
Best of luck.
-Bill
DonJuanMonk
Master Don Juan
I agree with BIll, you are getting a tad bit of a one-itis going on.. .Careful. Don't go overboard unless you're certain you will get booty, if you get low booty action wavelengths from her, bow out asap.