"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Diamonds or dinner?

aix237

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Been with my gf for a little over a year in Nov and bday is during that same time also. Been living with her for a couple of months now. I love her and want to do something special for her. She is somewhat materialisitic but I cant complain because I am really materialisitic. How AFC is it to buy her something nice like jewelery or would it be better to take her out to a nice dinner go do something really cool like sky diving or take a little trip
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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MR_PERFECT

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With the jewelry you're setting a precedent. Instead, I would take her on a trip, a cruise, sky diving, etc...
 

Good_ol_boy

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You are in a "relationship" e.g. you are living with her. The "don't spend money on her" advice is for guys who are dating a chick in the first couple of months. Things change in a LTR. (Just don't turn WUSS)
 
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