Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'm gonna bump this up, and yes I know it's 7 years old. I am wondering the same thing, about the masculinity, not the lack of libido.Lysander said:Although Pook goes on at length about extreme masculinity and testosterone as a source of attraction and success with the ladies, he does not go into the specifics of how to attain that masculine vibe, and sexual aura.
I train with the weights and eat heavy ( I am 6 foot, 175 lbs at around 12-15% bodyfat), but it has not made a significant impact on my testosterone levels, and I still have very little libido. Are there any other tips you can give a desexualised AFC such as myself?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.