"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Destroy your fapping and porn addiction.
- Thread starter MessedUpLearner
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
wifehunter
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Don Juan
Achieved days: 9
Max strike: 9
Something you did instead of fapping: Danced bachata & watched a film
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Don Juan
Achieved days: 10
Max strike: 10
Something you did instead of fapping: Worked out
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Achieved days: 11
Max strike: 11
Something you did instead of fapping: Programmed in C++
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nicksaiz65
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C++ is hard man lol
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Achieved days: 12
Max strike: 12
Something you did instead of fapping: Finished an algorithm in C++
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
MessedUpLearner
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It's a pain in the ass but oh well
@Logos
yeah if you have girls there is no point in fapping XD
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Achieved days: 13
Max strike: 13
Something you did instead of fapping: Edited a video
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Achieved days: 14
Max strike: 14
Something you did instead of fapping: Worked on a project
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Achieved days: 15
Max strike: 15
Something you did instead of fapping: Finished a project
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Achieved days: 16
Max strike: 16
Something you did instead of fapping: Worked out
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
MessedUpLearner
Don Juan
Achieved days: 17
Max strike: 17
Something you did instead of fapping: Recorded & edited a video
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Don Juan
Achieved days: 18
Max strike: 18
Something you did instead of fapping: Ate lunch & Danced bachata
*Today was hell of temptating, started getting hard as fVck looking at some hot pics and almost burst a load in my fVcking pants.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Fvck a babe dude. In your bachata class will be babes who are already into you
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Don Juan
Achieved days: 19
Max strike: 19
Something you did instead of fapping: Read a comic
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Yes there are!
My first fvck was with a chick from there but the virus has everyone isolated as fvck!
Any other ideas?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.