Theminatar
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How would I know if I'm depressed? Or simply down?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Depression
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Chickfight
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I'm not expert, but when people are down they come here and write a huge essay, wallowing in self-pity.
Those two short, unmotivated sentences do seem depressing.
In any case, here is not the place to should be to get diagnosed.
Those two short, unmotivated sentences do seem depressing.
In any case, here is not the place to should be to get diagnosed.
Thinking too much leads to depression. I always feel for guys like you because I was once there. Anyways do yourself a favor and watch this. Also research Eckhart Tolle.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeaWC6y0jFc
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeaWC6y0jFc
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Depression is constantly asking yourself "what's the point?" when faced with every small task in life. If it seems that everything is pointless, then you are probably depressed.
Theminatar
Don Juan
I only have 1 question for Tolle.n00bPimp said:
How am I supposed to determine my future if I don't constantly think about it?
@Bible_Belt:
I sort of think that way, I look at the dark side of everything, I say what's the point in trying because I'm going to fail anyways. Also a lack of motivation.
Idk..
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I see that you are 17. I know it may not feel that way now, but it might be a phase. Or it could be more serious. Best to see a professional regarding these things. The #1 most important thing when determining whether you have a mental 'disorder' is the "... and affects every day life to the point of being detrimental" criterion. Remember that.
Theminatar
Don Juan
It doesn't affect me so much to the point my life is ruined, but i does give me a bad outlook to life in general. Makes me feel like **** for a week straight.
NorwegianDJ
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Your future is determined by your present actions, thus; you can determine your future without resisting the moment.Theminatar said:
You must adapt a new mindset. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you think you're gonna fail, then you'll probably fail.
Theminatar
Don Juan
You're wise for a 15 year old.NorwegianDJ said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
insanewrestler123
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Deep stuff though, it makes sense.Theminatar said:
Many people believe that thinking about their future is the same as planning for it. Its not the same thing. You can plan for your future and make a contingency plan in case something doesnt work out. Thinking about your future involves dwelling on the possibility of the negative outcome (aka. failure). This thought of failure overpowers you in the long run and you will end up dropping your plans and failing. You only fail when you give up.Theminatar said:
Eckhart Tolle teaches you to quiet your mind because this allows you control of your thoughts. When you don't let thoughts control you, and instead YOU CONTROL your thoughts, they will work for you. Since thoughts will always manifest themselves, you will control the things that manifest into your life. Whereas before you were not able to control your thoughts, and therefore were not able to control the things that manifested in your life.
Theminatar
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But taking control is the hardest part.
Soyoushave
Don Juan
look for the DSM-IV classification of depression 
What troubles you? Something specific?
Nevertheless whatever it is, don't think too much about it and especially don't stress about it. If you won't make it worse by over-thinking, analyzing etc. it will go away in 2 months at most. If it gets worse or it won't go away, you probably need a medication to help you out.
Whatever you are stressing about is not a big deal....it just seems like it because your brain is in stress mode. So don't worry. Try to eat well and hydrate, take some vitamins avoid narcotics and alcohol and make slight effort to keep it cool.
Don't be afraid. It's gonna be just fine.
Nevertheless whatever it is, don't think too much about it and especially don't stress about it. If you won't make it worse by over-thinking, analyzing etc. it will go away in 2 months at most. If it gets worse or it won't go away, you probably need a medication to help you out.
Whatever you are stressing about is not a big deal....it just seems like it because your brain is in stress mode. So don't worry. Try to eat well and hydrate, take some vitamins avoid narcotics and alcohol and make slight effort to keep it cool.
Don't be afraid. It's gonna be just fine.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I guess, it is quite scary to realize you have your life in your own hands and your decisions will affect your life.
Try to trust the driver. You won't crash it, man, come on. Make some practice runs before you start speeding on a highway but otherwise you will be just fine.
It is fine to plan and prepare but it is also important to just apply the 'fvck it, it won't kill me' attitude.
It is in your genes. Your ancestors did well and so will you. You can even do much better.
Try to trust the driver. You won't crash it, man, come on. Make some practice runs before you start speeding on a highway but otherwise you will be just fine.
It is fine to plan and prepare but it is also important to just apply the 'fvck it, it won't kill me' attitude.
It is in your genes. Your ancestors did well and so will you. You can even do much better.
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If you're thinking to yourself, "I wish I would've done __insert inconsequential bullsh!t__ another way."
If you're looking back, you're not focused on the possibilities ahead.
If you're looking back, you're not focused on the possibilities ahead.
powpow
Senior Don Juan
depression leads to lower testosterone levels which leads to less *****, which leads to more depression.
snap the **** out of it.
when I find myself getting depressed, I do something I like. Then I feel better. If you try this and it doesnt work, then maybe you should talk to people who are not way too suave, e.g. church person, psychologist.
actually prostitutes listen really well too.
snap the **** out of it.
when I find myself getting depressed, I do something I like. Then I feel better. If you try this and it doesnt work, then maybe you should talk to people who are not way too suave, e.g. church person, psychologist.
actually prostitutes listen really well too.
Stop what your doing right now and just stand back and observe your feelings. You'll quickly realize that you really have no problems right now at this moment.Theminatar said:
Your basically looking at your outside circumstances, if you foreseeable future in the next week, next day, 2 hours from now or 5 minutes looks favorable then you feel great. But if it looks bleak or uncertain then you will feel depressed or down.
The best thing to do is to forget about the future, let go of the past and focus on being happy right here, and right now.
NorwegianDJ
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Remember that its human nature to want to stay in your current emotional state.
As humans are concious of the conciousness itself; so we can break free of this, and decide what mood we want to be in; right NOW. Just smile. Just laught.
You dont laught because you're happy; you're happy because you laught.
Also realize that the essence of human freedom lies in the fact that unlike other creatures, man is self-aware, which means that we decide how we respond to any stimulus.
This means that all these things that you may think are either good or bad, are neither. You choose how you view things in your life. Are they gonna be problems, obstacles, or cheerleaders?
Just my .02
As humans are concious of the conciousness itself; so we can break free of this, and decide what mood we want to be in; right NOW. Just smile. Just laught.
You dont laught because you're happy; you're happy because you laught.
Also realize that the essence of human freedom lies in the fact that unlike other creatures, man is self-aware, which means that we decide how we respond to any stimulus.
This means that all these things that you may think are either good or bad, are neither. You choose how you view things in your life. Are they gonna be problems, obstacles, or cheerleaders?
Just my .02
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.