“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Define happiness

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What is happiness to you? Everyone will have their own definition. None right or wrong.

It's like 'what is success?'. Well I can think it's one thing right now and another tomorrow.
 

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happiness is overrated and only comes in moments. life is suffering. people chase being happy to no avail. true happiness is being close to God and mastering yourself and knowing you are fulfilling your purpose
 

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Value production + value reflection = happiness
 

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That's an interesting question. My first thought was that it was a kind of mood, or satisfaction.

But looking deeper I'm thinking maybe it's more like a type of homeostasis, where all body functions are working properly, the mind is calm, and life events are manageable. Everything is in balance, at least within a certain tolerance. The problem with this definition is that it doesn't leave happiness as being completely in your own control.
 

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What is happiness?
We cant define your happiness. Only you can.

I can tell you that a good start is doing what YOU like doing that makes you happy.

Personally, I love coaching, spending time with my daughter (full custody so I wear many hats when it comes to parenting), golf, boating, fishing and bow hunting. College football games, live music/concerts, etc.

Notice I didn't say women. They come last on my priority list. Which is why I dont struggle with women because I never am invested nearly as much as women invest in me.

You do what makes you happy first and foremost. If you find a woman to bring along for part of the ride, so be it. As long as you continue doing what makes YOU happy.

Happiness is one of many things well within our total control if we stick to what makes us happy and eliminated those things that bring unhappiness.
 

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Please elaborate.
Happiness is an emotion that approximates to being successful, more than just surviving, but thriving. Since man cannot rely solely on his automatic reactions to survive, such as the case of animals, or in the case of children where adults look after them, he must guide himself independently using his own mind; living things require values, and man requires ethics. Values are universal to each particular species, to all known living things on Earth except man. Therefore each human being must achieve his or her own values independently by productive means.

One cannot be happy until one acknowledges one's own nature and what it takes to achieve that person's own values (what it takes to survive and thrive). Reflecting on those values that have been gained and kept reaffirms one's self-esteem.
 

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Happiness is an idea, and the more you consciously pursue it, the more it will recede from you.

This suggests that it can not be an end in itself. That rather it is the by-product, or effect, of something else. This itself suggests its an emotion that can not function as the rational 'ideal'.... the end of life.

So, for example, when I pursue worthier goals such as self-determination, freedom, and ethical ideals, I find myself 'happier'. Eudaimonia the Greeks called... more a feeling of holistic well-being.


The picture we have of happiness is a cow contentedly chewing its cud in a green field of plenty. But something is wrong with this picture.
As Aristotle said, man is not an animal to be farmed.
 
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'Happiness', as an idea, is the ideal and futile pursuit of mediocrity.
 
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Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Happiness is the ideal and futile pursuit of mediocrity.
That's certainly not everybody. I know some (as well as myself) that define happiness (achieving my values) as building a business and being influential.
 

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happiness is overrated and only comes in moments. life is suffering. people chase being happy to no avail. true happiness is being close to God and mastering yourself and knowing you are fulfilling your purpose
'Happiness' is certainly over-rated. People feel they have the right to be happy... as if it doesn't come with certain achievements in life. this breeds disappointment and resentment in the mass of people.

It's an unreal look at reality. The reality is we need to develop ourselves in order to first cope with life, and then flourish. The picture should be of a resilient tree that can withstand the battering of storms. people are weak today... and primarily due to being fed this ideology for the masses of happiness.
 

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That's certainly not everybody. I know some (as well as myself) that define happiness (achieving my values) as building a business and being influential.
Yes, but you have goals beyond 'happiness'. That sense of achievement/ happiness comes from reaching your goals.
 

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Sadly, it's the drug addict, or the consumer of pornography, that falls victim to wanting to feel happy right here, right now... leading to an addictive and destructive habit.

this kind of 'happiness/ bliss' is just temporary escape, or the temporary obliteration of the conscious rational self.

The 'pursuit of happiness' degenerates into hedonism.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Sadly, it's the drug addict, or the consumer of pornography, that falls victim to wanting to feel happy right here, right now... leading to an addictive and destructive habit.

this kind of 'happiness/ bliss' is just temporary escape, or the temporary obliteration of the conscious rational self.
That's called hedonism. I suppose that's a short term happiness, but really just serves to make the person less happy in the long run.
 

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That's called hedonism. I suppose that's a short term happiness, but really just serves to make the person less happy in the long run.
Yes, just edited my post before.

But I think there is this logic in the pursuit of happiness as an end in itself that leads to hedonism. Without a set of higher ideals, there's no ability to discriminate between mere [animal] pleasure and 'happiness'. Sadly, this logic without ethical constraints leads to all manner of vices. Gluttony, greed etc.

And then the flip-side of this must be true - virtue leads to happiness. 'Vir' as in manliness.... virility.
 

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Yes, just edited my post before.

But I think there is this logic in the pursuit of happiness as an end in itself that leads to hedonism. Without a set of higher ideals, there's no ability to discriminate between mere [animal] pleasure and 'happiness'. Sadly, this logic without ethical constraints leads to all manner of vices. Gluttony, greed etc.

And then the flip-side of this must be true - virtue leads to happiness. 'Vir' as in manliness.... virility.
Maybe the solution to that is to be in competition with other people. That way you have to be your best or else you run the risk of losing it all.
 

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When you really think abt it, most people put themselves through so much hardships, like slogging day in and day out at their jobs just to buy happiness.

Yes buy.

They buy expensive cloths, jewellery, cars, big houses, accessories for the face, etc, just to feel good and be happy abt it so that others take notice and it puts value on ur superficiality.

If that describes you, then you're in for a lot of pain now and in the coming future.
 

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Risk, competition, implies a level of anxiety, and anxiety undermines happiness.

To refer to Aristotle again, a magnanimous man has ENOUGH means at his disposal to live a self-determined leisurely life. Of course, this cuts against the grain of contemporary consumerist culture, where you are continually striving for the top. In this culture, there is no ideal outside the wheel that the rat runs on incessantly. No escaping the rat race because you can not say enough, and you can not say enough because you lack extra-social [metaphysical] ideals. the Matrix is a good metaphor for this.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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