hey fellow Djs, I know we've all been there, when a girl likes you but you find her unattractive. I know of two girls right now that like me, both send me text messages saying "lets hang out" or "youre sexy" etc... how do you guys deal with girls you dont want anything to do with?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dealing with girls you find unattractive?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Simple. You don't respond to their messages. When you run into them and they ask you why, you just respond that you've been extremely busy and other white lies. That's how it works. Eventually they either get the message or they lose interest.
Only when they persist, you might have to turn out the heavy artillery of outright rejection or telling them off in a polite manner.
Then again, they can be used to improve your game (you're not anxious because you don't want anything from them) or gain access to their hot friends. Or course, this sort of subterfuge is something that has to click with your honour.
Good luck.
Only when they persist, you might have to turn out the heavy artillery of outright rejection or telling them off in a polite manner.
Then again, they can be used to improve your game (you're not anxious because you don't want anything from them) or gain access to their hot friends. Or course, this sort of subterfuge is something that has to click with your honour.
Good luck.
Alexander the Great said:Simple. You don't respond to their messages. When you run into them and they ask you why, you just respond that you've been extremely busy and other white lies. That's how it works. Eventually they either get the message or they lose interest.
Only when they persist, you might have to turn out the heavy artillery of outright rejection or telling them off in a polite manner.
Then again, they can be used to improve your game (you're not anxious because you don't want anything from them) or gain access to their hot friends. Or course, this sort of subterfuge is something that has to click with your honour.
Good luck.
TURN THIS AROUND, this is the same crap women says to us guys -- GET IT?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Isn't it best to tell them they are not your type? At least you're being straight with them.
Having been ignored in the past theres nothing worse then ignoring somebody IMO. They'll respect you more too if you're straight with them.
You don't have to tell them they're ugly but just say theres no chemistry on your part.
Be a man.
Having been ignored in the past theres nothing worse then ignoring somebody IMO. They'll respect you more too if you're straight with them.
You don't have to tell them they're ugly but just say theres no chemistry on your part.
Be a man.
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"Let's just be friends"
It works both ways.
It works both ways.
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This is the best thing to do. Something I always advise myself. But if TS has to ask what to do on a forum, I don't think he's ready to do a man's thing yet.slaog said:
Then again, why not start difficult? Everything's easy afterwards then.