"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ive been visiting this site for awhile now but ive never posted a thread and i have a big problem that is killing my social status and my chances of getting with girls,you see i am what you guys call here an afc and i know its mostly because i have anxiety mostly get nervous when talking to girls i like, I know im good looking, ive been told by many and all the signals and flirting i get by girls but sometimes i think maybe im not attractive think theyre talking about me or maybe they think ima wierd but my anxiety is getting in the way.So im wondering if anyone here knows or has ideas of how to get rid of anxiety completely,Thank you.
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

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is this a normal anxiety feeling or do you have anxiety at other times too?

normal anxiety is ok to have...

if you have too much and are experiencing anxiety attacks, aka panic attacks, see your family doc right away.
 
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i dont know im not scared of people i have plenty of friends but sometimes i start to blush when people stare at me
 
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o well it sounds like a simple case of stage fright...

but if it gets worse or anything go talk to your family doc ok
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So im wondering if anyone here knows or has ideas of how to get rid of anxiety completely
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Put yourself in situations that give you anxiety as often as possible. The goal is to de-sensitize yourself to those situations. Do it gradually, but live a little bit of everyday outside of your comfort zone. Rome wasn't built in a day, so expect your improvements to take time.

For specific advice read the DJ bible. There's some very good articles about overcoming social anxiety with women.

Good luck!
 
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thanks for the links and the advice, im gonna talk to my doctor about this because day by day its getting worse.
 
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you may just need something to balance out a few little hormones thats all
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I was never like this in middle school and then i got acne and i got realy ugly so i went on accutane cause of this and now i have a cleared up face and i know im a goodlooking kid ill post a pic when iget a scanner but i think it is a side effect of accutane
 
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