Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Dealing with anxiety

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Ive been visiting this site for awhile now but ive never posted a thread and i have a big problem that is killing my social status and my chances of getting with girls,you see i am what you guys call here an afc and i know its mostly because i have anxiety mostly get nervous when talking to girls i like, I know im good looking, ive been told by many and all the signals and flirting i get by girls but sometimes i think maybe im not attractive think theyre talking about me or maybe they think ima wierd but my anxiety is getting in the way.So im wondering if anyone here knows or has ideas of how to get rid of anxiety completely,Thank you.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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is this a normal anxiety feeling or do you have anxiety at other times too?

normal anxiety is ok to have...

if you have too much and are experiencing anxiety attacks, aka panic attacks, see your family doc right away.
 

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i dont know im not scared of people i have plenty of friends but sometimes i start to blush when people stare at me
 

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o well it sounds like a simple case of stage fright...

but if it gets worse or anything go talk to your family doc ok
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So im wondering if anyone here knows or has ideas of how to get rid of anxiety completely
Put yourself in situations that give you anxiety as often as possible. The goal is to de-sensitize yourself to those situations. Do it gradually, but live a little bit of everyday outside of your comfort zone. Rome wasn't built in a day, so expect your improvements to take time.

For specific advice read the DJ bible. There's some very good articles about overcoming social anxiety with women.

Good luck!
 

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thanks for the links and the advice, im gonna talk to my doctor about this because day by day its getting worse.
 

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you may just need something to balance out a few little hormones thats all
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I was never like this in middle school and then i got acne and i got realy ugly so i went on accutane cause of this and now i have a cleared up face and i know im a goodlooking kid ill post a pic when iget a scanner but i think it is a side effect of accutane
 
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