"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dealing with anxiety

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Ive been visiting this site for awhile now but ive never posted a thread and i have a big problem that is killing my social status and my chances of getting with girls,you see i am what you guys call here an afc and i know its mostly because i have anxiety mostly get nervous when talking to girls i like, I know im good looking, ive been told by many and all the signals and flirting i get by girls but sometimes i think maybe im not attractive think theyre talking about me or maybe they think ima wierd but my anxiety is getting in the way.So im wondering if anyone here knows or has ideas of how to get rid of anxiety completely,Thank you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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is this a normal anxiety feeling or do you have anxiety at other times too?

normal anxiety is ok to have...

if you have too much and are experiencing anxiety attacks, aka panic attacks, see your family doc right away.
 

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i dont know im not scared of people i have plenty of friends but sometimes i start to blush when people stare at me
 

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o well it sounds like a simple case of stage fright...

but if it gets worse or anything go talk to your family doc ok
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So im wondering if anyone here knows or has ideas of how to get rid of anxiety completely
Put yourself in situations that give you anxiety as often as possible. The goal is to de-sensitize yourself to those situations. Do it gradually, but live a little bit of everyday outside of your comfort zone. Rome wasn't built in a day, so expect your improvements to take time.

For specific advice read the DJ bible. There's some very good articles about overcoming social anxiety with women.

Good luck!
 

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thanks for the links and the advice, im gonna talk to my doctor about this because day by day its getting worse.
 

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you may just need something to balance out a few little hormones thats all
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I was never like this in middle school and then i got acne and i got realy ugly so i went on accutane cause of this and now i have a cleared up face and i know im a goodlooking kid ill post a pic when iget a scanner but i think it is a side effect of accutane
 
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